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Topic: My best friend
Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 09/08/08 06:27 AM Edited by Peccy on Mon 09/08/08 06:27 AM
is also my lover. Do you think that's correct, or should they be separate people?

jnbuglady Joined Sat 04/05/08 Posts: 865	Mon 09/08/08 06:36 AM
They certainly could be one in the same-------or seperate.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 09/08/08 06:37 AM
either or really

OneMoreTimeAround Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 3649	Mon 09/08/08 06:38 AM
Can you not have your lover as your best friend AND another best friend or do we just have one best friend?

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Mon 09/08/08 06:39 AM
I know Jon is both to me, but I do have other really good friends, I consider them my best girlfriends.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 09/08/08 06:42 AM
Can you not have your lover as your best friend AND another best friend or do we just have one best friend? By definition, best friend is singular.

jnbuglady Joined Sat 04/05/08 Posts: 865	Mon 09/08/08 06:44 AM
Can you not have your lover as your best friend AND another best friend or do we just have one best friend? By definition, best friend is singular. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm splitting hairs!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 09/08/08 06:44 AM
I think everyones BEST friend should be their LOVER! Mine is!

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 09/08/08 06:52 AM
Wonder who he is?.......

jnbuglady Joined Sat 04/05/08 Posts: 865	Mon 09/08/08 06:59 AM
I think everyones BEST friend should be their LOVER! Mine is! Totally agree!

Puffins1958 Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 13637	Mon 09/08/08 07:03 AM
I think BEST friends make the BEST lovers. I know I would want him to be MY best friend.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 09/08/08 07:03 AM
Can you not have your lover as your best friend AND another best friend or do we just have one best friend? By definition, best friend is singular. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm splitting hairs!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 ways!

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 09/08/08 07:04 AM
Wonder who he is?.......

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Mon 09/08/08 07:10 AM
they should definatly be kept separate, there are things you may need to talk about that a friend/lover may be unable to hear because of lack of objectivity, they loose their imparciality.. I have lost a couple of REALLY good and important friends because we crossed the line and then could never recover the friendship when the lover part went south.... If you really are interested in having a friend, then dont make them your lover, now its really nice that your lover is a friend, makes the intimacy all the better, but its not the same kind of friendship..at least in my opinion.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/08/08 07:11 AM
My best friend has always been separate from the person I was dating. It has been the same person since high school, too.

OneMoreTimeAround Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 3649	Mon 09/08/08 07:15 AM
I have a best friend who is male, but since I don't have a lover, he's not that too. I also have a couple "best" friends who are female. There are things I can talk to my male best friend about, that I wouldn't talk to my female best friends about...vice versa.

luckycharm89 Joined Fri 09/05/08 Posts: 583	Mon 09/08/08 07:16 AM
My ex was and still is my best friend...only problem was we became best friends AFTER our relationship started, which, I think, is the wrong way to do things. I don't think there's anything wrong with your lover being your best friend.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Mon 09/08/08 07:17 AM
The friendship I have with my best friend could not be replaced by a partner. Any mate I have would be a friend and hopefully a wonderful one. But romance and friendship are intertwined and enmeshed..... my best friend is pretty objective with me.

pkh Joined Sat 05/26/07 Posts: 14961	Mon 09/08/08 07:42 AM
I think everyones BEST friend should be their LOVER! Mine is! i agree

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Mon 09/08/08 07:45 AM
well i believe if you to have a truly strong and healthy realtionship that you need to have a true and strong and deep friendship!or else what is holding the relationship together?