Ok, I need help. I've dated this woman for about a year, the last few months has been long distance. I really don't want to date her anymore, for a variety of reasons. The problem is whenever I tell her I don't want to date her anymore she goes off the deep end. She starts crying and ranting and raving about this and that and it drives me crazy. Do I care for her? Yes, I don't think you can date someone for a period of time and not have any feelings for them however we've had a very strained last few months and I want to move on. She is currently in therapy which makes me feel really cold; meaning how can you leave someone who is trying to make changes? Again, I do care for her however we've gone through too much and 41, I really don't want to go through drama. Too old for that stuff.

Well, at least if she ALREADY has a therapist, she has a support system there. Get on with your life. You are not responsible for hers. We get it; YOU CARE. But, you need to care for yourself, too, and first!!

It's hard, but ultimately you are not responsible for her health, sanity and well-being. She is.

That is why god invented text messages and IM's

if you are now long distance, and you were having trouble for a few months anyway, do not, DO NOT, let her put a guilt trip on you. move on with your life. if she is in therapy, she is at least seeking the help she needs, and maybe this will end up being a good thing for her too.

best of luck to you.

I know exactly what you mean. You know you need to move on,but it is really hard when you do care for somebody but you know that person is just not right for you.Just be thankful that you don't have kids and you haven't been together for many years, cause that makes it even harder. But the one person is right, you have to do what is best for you and don't let the other person make you feel guilty anymore than you may already. Don't get trapped into conversation with this person either, I learned the hard way. If you can cut the strings cold turkey, do it and don't look back......Best of luck.....

dont listen to him. if you want to break up wiht her do it on the phone just ignore her pleas. breaking up with someone on text or ims just to avoid hearing the pleas and stuff is pathetic.. but shes in therapy already so when you break up with her she'll be ok her therapist will help her.

You have too build a life thats going to give you peace. If you keep communicating with her, she is going too keep think there is a chance. As hard as it might be, you have too cut it off cold turkey. You control what you do. She will move on. Unless in a sick way you like the drama? Help yourself. Life is short. Good Luck