Yesterday as most of you know I went to visit my parents. Had a wonderful time. On my way home there was this family 5 sitting across from me. A mother father and 3 kids. The kids seemed to be 3, 4 and I know the baby was 22 days old as the father told me.

The father and the 2 older children where sitting in the four seater part with the mom and the baby behind them.

I sat there and watch the father do EVERYTHING. He settle the children down and laying down across the seats, getting them to go to sleep. Getting them pillows and blankets. and making sure that they had everything to make them as comfortable as possible. The mother was still behind them, baby in the car seat beside her on the floor, her sitting there reading. The baby got up and it was time for feeding. The father got up, after sitting down and relaxing after settling the other children down. But he got up to get the feeding pillow and even tied it around the mother. Got the baby out of the car seat, and handed it to the mom. He even took the baby's clothes off for her and put a blanket over him. And the mother proceeded to breast feed. Fed for one breast and handed him to the father to burp. At this point I am thinking WTF?! This lady can not burp her baby?

The father burped the baby and handed him back to mom to finish the feeding of the other breast. But when dad handed the baby back he spit up a little. The mother held the baby out like it was diseased or something and the father wiped the baby's mouth. And the mother finished up the feeding. Then handed him back to dad.

The dad then changed the babe. Held him and played with him for a little bit. The mother went to use the washroom. The dad was then changing the baby again (he was now sitting across from me as I was sitting in another 4 seater part of the train). Mom came back and started eating crackers and some sort of spread. The father finished up the changing and asked mom to hold him, so he could go wash his hands and use the washroom. The mom simply said I am on break. I am like FROM WHAT?! She did NOTHING. So dad was about to lay the baby across the seats as they tilted back a bit. I did not see this as safe and was starting to feel sorry for him. So I asked if I could hold him. And they agreed.

So the dad went and came back and took the babe from me and started to play with him some more. Before the little one started falling asleep. So he asked mom if she wanted to hold him before he did. She said I am still on break. So the dad put him back into the car seat.

HOW CAN ONE PERSON BE SO LAZY?

That is the story of a woman who has a " nice guy " that is very happy to be a father, but doesn't have the balls to stand up to his wife.

He's got a LOT more years of that to look forward to. Poor guy.

It was really sad. I felt SO sorry for him.

Well it could be post-partum and/or that she's still healing and not feeling well... One thing I've learned is to not presume b/c when I have, I've ended up feeling like a jerk for misjudging when so much more was going on... Father's seem to be way more involved these days, I think it's great... I wish my ex was 1/4 of the father I see my friends in real life and on here being...

Thats the way it was with my x when we had my daughter.

He sounds like a man who loves his kids, I just hope she isn't like that all the time with the family. If it is post-partum depression, she needs help before things get worse.

I can understand where you are coming from. And you are right I should not presume. But it all just seemed really odd to me. Even as the father was handing the baby to mom, mom kissed his head and said that she missed him while he was sleeping. But that was the only time she wanted to hold him.

It was really nice seeing the man take charge like that and get involved. But really does that mean the mother has to be involved any less?

No one ever took care of mine, but in seeing my cousin I see that her husband helps her a lot but she's the one that stays up all night, she had some health problems afterwards... So I was thinking if that and that maybe mom is tired and dad is letting her rest up for the night ahead... I could be completely off, I just have a hard time thinking a mother would not want to be the best mother should could be...

Not always...be it post parum or what ever. Sometimes parenting/loving its just not for them. Watch the news lately, some moms are just as guilty as dads at being poor moms/dads. they dont feel things like most of us do.

I know Updawg but it's seems that would be the worst, I'm wearing rosey glasses today

Keep them on cause its a prettier way to see the world.

Don't I know it.. Remember that special place called "Joy's World? Most everything every thing is nice there

I can see where both of you are coming from. Indn I can see how she could be suffering Post pardom, or maybe up all night and all.

At the same time I can also see where Upland is coming from and can see how both mother and fathers can be just as bad as one another.

I want to give her the benift of the doubt, but you hear and read about so many horor stories about parents not giving a crap, and when you see something like this I just can not help but think of those stories.

I know where you're coming from Whisper and the caring parenting will result in the continued behavior or possibly worse behavior... Psychological studies have shown that children who are not raised with physical touching/being held, cuddled/coddled or not given any kind of emotional love, they either die or turn into very uncaring, unloving people... It's a terrible trend for a parent to start...

I guess all I can hope is that it really is nothing. Cause yes you are right they will either grow up being uncaring or loving or even die. And that breaks my heart.

Well, don't worry too much, it sounds like they have a very loving father if nothing else... That will pretty much ensure they'll be ok...

Nice of "Mom" to show her kids that she's useless for anything else...aside from being a big, milky, slurpee

He should've bought some milk and tossed her from the train....