I personally wouldn't give out my phone number information to someone I hadn't talked with/or met before either. Perhaps if the date went well you'd more than likely receive the phone number afterwards.

Ok just get me the info and i'll set it up for you. I can't get a date but I'll get one for you I swear!!!!!

I really think you should just take a chance and see what happens and if its not with this guy then with someone else- the opportunity will present itself again- what will you do then?

Personally I see nothing wrong with a dinner date either, but seeing as how nothing more has been said of future meeting, I think he may have blown me off by merely asking to exchange numbers. Since the email option was NOT and option, I just thought it be better then just showing up for a dinner....like here I am, like it or not.

"here I am like it or not" <~~~ would be the same reasoning even if you HAD spoke to him on the phone, met online..whatever the circumstance. Those are the chances we take when meeting someone.

That's called "putting yourself out there".

Take a chance.. you never know what it may become or where it might lead.

all joking aside - and you have no idea how it pains
me to lay off the jocularity in this situation -

ohhh

chuckle chuckle....

he may not be a bad guy - maybe be wanted to have some
spontaneity and it just didn't happen...who knows...
but it seems like one of those situations where you just
both aren't on the same wavelength...so just forget about
it and try again some other time. or go out with your
friend who was trying to set you up - or go out as a
group of friends or something...

but you didn't do anything wrong and he didn't do
anything either....of course, that is part of the
PrObLeM !!



see? i just can't keep a straight face here!

but if it were me - i'dve called you up and said:

"hi my name is >s1owhand< and our mutual friend,
>>deleted<<, had the audacity to suggest that we
might get along. do you think she's offer her
rocker or what?!"

you want to go get some coffee just for the sake
of meeting someone new and see what i am really like?
i am agreeable. i like to meet new people!"

then - and this is the shocking part - are you ready?

i would actually show up and talk to you even if
we had absolutely nothing in common!!



c'mon people!! what the heck?!

For a first date, especially when there has been no communication a simple refreshment is enough....if there is no Chemistry the date can be kept to under an hour and neither person has to sit through a dinner.....I would suggest he meet you for coffee or other refreshment....Keep it Simple....Park your Expectations in the lot....and go with the idea of creating conversation.....at least you'll get to know somebody new even if you don't click....

PS....I agree with you S1owhand...

Sometimes you just have to say What the Hell!!! Here I am- like me or not- this is who I am.

This is the dating world. We are all maybe a little shy, a little nervous about meeting new people. The internet makes it possible to meet a broader spectrum of people but it also makes it scarier. You will have other opportunities to go on a date. So maybe its not with him- so what?

How are you going to handle your next opportunity? Are you going play it safe or are you willing to take some chances?

You are a beautiful real live woman- with alot to offer any man!!!- you should be willing to get out there and knock 'em dead!!!!

You are so easy, Slow. ...What's your number?

he has a whiiiiiineeeee voice, he snorts (LOUD)
when he laughs, he has BO, is unsure of his wardrobe,
wears socks with sandals, and never knows WHAT to say!!



he's 19 as well.

In the end, if she didn't feel comfortable going out on a date with him, she made the right choice.

yes - one must feel comfortable with the decision to go out.
blind dates can be nerve wracking and totally dud...so you
don't go unless you are ready.

she did nothing wrong. it is certainly no big deal to have
a call - just to decide on where and how to meet!!

why he wouldn't do it is cause for "speculation"

there are many many guys here who would gladly chat for
hours on the phone!

some will actually show up for the date!!



i'm really sorry it did not work out for you -
asking to speak with him was very normal and not a big deal...

he has no excuse - except that he really did not want
to go out at all - in which case - why would you want
to go out with him?

that is my gut reaction. he really was not interested
in going out. he's agoraphobic!

Most of the relationships in my life have been with people I met through friends -- my policy has always been that I have to talk to them on the phone for at least a few days or a week before I would consider meeting in person. This gives me some information, an idea of "what (who) to expect" -- it also lays the groundwork for what we're going to be talking about and doing when we finally do meet....

my number is:

http://www.justsayhi.com/inbox/new/146655

Ohhhhhhhhhh shame on you your already taken shshshsh (they need one of those emotions throwing pie here) lmao