have you ever came to the conclusion that all of a sudden you didnt know what you wanted out of life?

i came to the very scary feeling tonight that i have no idea what i want anymore. on anything.

and i have no clue what the hell to do about it. any advice?


i met this awesome guy yesterday. he was everything i thought i was looking for then tonight while talking i realized im not sure i want a relationship right now. that i dont even know what i want right now.


eh. help. please? and serious advice. i know a lot of you guys like to joke but right now not much is funny to me and i want/need seriousness please.

Sounds like you finally found what you are looking for and are just scared. Take it one day at a time.. You don't have to get married tomorrow. See if he really pans out to be the one you want or not.. He may be, he may not be.. Don't rush any decisions. And don't do anything you'll regret later in the process of deciding, like I did.

you may have heard this before but at your age you have so much to look forward to...go out and explore yourself...your career...your dreams...your friends.... just have fun and be you then when you find yourself you find everything you need which leads you to your one ture love... you are at ease with yourself and able to figure out when you are ready because in that quest to find yourself...he'll find you!!!

good luck

it's simple. if you don't wanna get involved, then don't. you shouldn't have to make or otherwise force yourself to get yourself into a relationship, as those typically never work. in fact, NO type of dating relationship should ever be forced upon or made to happen- it should just happen out of the blue, with no external pressures being applied.

Best thing to do, is to take a week and ask him for some space just so you can take time to think. And, use that week to think. I recently, did that and it changed everything about me in a way. Doing that, showed me who I wanted in my life and what I wanted out of life. Within days of posting what I truly wanted in a woman and out of life, I actually had the woman I had been hoping for come into my life and she asked me to marry her. So, best advice is to take some time to think. If he's any true Man and the one that you should be with, he will understand your feelings and respect them.

Your 20yrs old trust me you got no worries and lots of time.... Take a vacation, get real drunk or go on a mini sabbatical and it will come to you........U got no worries

Life is full of decisions. Generally things happen for the best. I guess going by your first instincts should be the plan...

i think i feel this way because i havnt been single longer than 2 weeks since i was 15. so for the last 5 years ive been in relationship after relationship. all have lasted 6 months exactly except one that lasted 2 years.

maybe i need to be single to figure out my life and get my career started. i dont know. i just know ive never been single long and my last relationship was a month ago do i really want to rush into a new one already?

ill pass on the getting drunk thing. im not that person. i dont drink. never have dont plan on getting drunk ever. not my idea of fun lol.

You need to do what your heart leads you to do. Protect it and do what it tells you to.

{{mary}} my love, I emailed you, but I will tell you here.

You are young and attractive, but do not go into a relationship if you are unsure of yourself. That will only cause heartache. Step back and look good at what you want and take the step your heart tells you to take.

Remember this, and I am speaking from experience (I am much older than you), No company is better than the wrong company.

Go into a relationship for all of the right reasons.

totally off topic.
but man are you cute!

I'm 23 and know all to well the realization that I may in fact not have a lot of time left...that being said I am in this life and I will make the best out of the days I do have, I worry little to none as that tends to get in my way.

Thank you Samii!

no problem.