today i went on a date- someone off mingle2-
we ate lunch at iguana grill then went and played putt putt. after that he asked if i wanted to go to rockbox to see a show. rockbox is in fredricksburg which is an hour and a half hours away. we did-- it was a great show-- live music and ate dinner in fredricksburg...so my date lasted from 1130am until now 1030pm. tickets to the show alone were $30 each.
my question--- he made several attempts to go beyond kissing and touching.(which never happened) he called after the date and said he wanted to do it again..
is he just after sex?

YES...(guys like it)

He's a man. Men are gonna try on the first date. They're also going try on every other date.
That sounds like a lot of time and money invested just for sex.
JMO

NO!!!!!!!!!!!! Ya think????????????????

Of course he was after sex! And you weren't?

hi nurjoyce

NO,,,he thought you pocketed his watch,,,and he was checking your pockets for it...... .lol



Hi babe,,,,,he sounds to agressive,,but hell,,maybe he was just so excited by you he couldn't control his manners??

I would say to talk about it and ask him.....

He KNOWS,,for sure....wink..

doing that right now-
he said did i come on too strong and i said yes

yeah joyce - what T says...



he may just really like you. but why rush?!
maybe just too enthusiastic - a little desperate...

hello

No man is going on a date for that long without motives....Just thinking

Keep the next one short and public and see what happens.

Lifes short...Just do it!!!

You have the ability to perceive this yourself. Were you drinking? Get quiet light inscence and one candle (the flame of truth) Put all of your attention in your heart, stare at the candle flame, and extend your feelings into the relationship, looking well into the future. How does this feel? You will know for sure if this is the case. Expect that he may call you while you are doing this. Listen back to the message-is it loving and kind? Do report to me if this helps. Marcus

No he is not just after sex, I dont think he would have wanted to spend that much time with you just for Sex. He just maybe moving too fast, and getting too comfortable. He is probably really interested, but i think you are going to have to control the pace. He might just be a good guy, and just may not be use to someone that wants to take it slow. Different world out their for dating now, sex is like holding hands. Good luck

Well, if he kept repeatedly trying to go beyond "first date etiquote" then you can say that he is only after sex. I mean, all the signs are their for that. He spent alot of time and money on this first date trying to impress you and now, knowing that he did come on too strong and that knowing that you did not fall for his methods, of course he asks the "Did I come on too strong?" question. That is to cover his bases. My advice. If you would like, go out again with him and see how he plays things. If he is really into you, then he will back off on the advances and show you that he respects you and wants to know you. If he doesn't, then he just wants to tap ya.

Yes I am sure he would have had sex with you if you were willing , but to try to say... is he just after sex I think is a bit pre-mature. I will say if he was trying on the first date he might have been getting some signals from you though. Chill girl he did call you back you have to chalk one up on the good side for that and stop trying to see the future go with the present:)

If a man was disrespectful enough to keep trying to push my boundaries I would give him the boot. If he is that desperate for sex, he can go get it somewhere else and stop wasting my time.

It doesnt sound like he was just after sex. Although Im sure he wouldnt have minded. Every guy is gonna go for it. Thats normal. He sounds like a normal guy to me. As long as he isnt rude about it.

Yes, he was after some sex. The indicators are there by making several attempts beyond kissing and touching. When he first made you feel uncomfortably you probally should have laid out respectfully your comfort zone and boundaries especially on your first date. He will either respect it or move on and you will at least know where he is coming from.

Yup, obviously he wants sex. Is it just sex? Doesn't sound like it as he is spending so much money. Go with your heart. If you are asking the question here maybe your heart is giving you big warning signals.

Tell him how you feel about his advances. Thats what you really need to do. You should not feel so uncomfortable on a date.
Why even go out again if that is the case? Talk and explain how you feel. If he can't take it he will not go out with you again and you will know it was just for sex.