Non sequitur, actually. (=

do whatever u want

They should work. Pull their weight and show their kids what an honest living is. Kids are too soft today. They get spanked and the cops get called. That's horse****.

What she said.

Bull****. Get out there and earn something!

And for those wondering. It is lonely up here on my soapbox.

I think it should be mutually agreed upon as to whether or not the woman stays home. If she wants to work I can't blame her for that. If she wants to stay home it is better for the kids studies have proved that. Would you rather have someone else with your kids during the formative stage of their lives (ages 1-5) for 10 hours a day or not it's a good question. My ex stayed home but periodically she would get a part time job just to keep from going nuts.
All in all I think it's best if the woman stays home unless she can make more money than her husband, then he should stay home. Sacrificing a little doesn't hurt either. Do you really need 2 TV's, 2 cars and other material things that can wait until your kids are in school? We ate a lot of macaronni and cheese when the kids were little but we survived...it all gets down to choices.

I was 1 of 3 children raised by a single mother,so that wasnt even an option for her.she had to work dbl shifts my whole life.
Being a product of that upbrining,I think if I ever have my own kids I would do what ever it takes to make ends meet on my own so that my future wife would be able to stay home and properly raise the kids.

Ok who's on crack???

culture has a lot to do with it...here in Argentina (as well as most of Latin America) working outside the home is an option for moms, but the norm is stay-at-home mom at least till the little one is old enough to start school..and even then the children take priority, you always see moms attending school functions, picking up the kids from school, etc....fathers are very involved as well but they are the primary bread-winners...

Mothers should do whatever they want to do, but their children should be at the top of their priorities imo.

Not it!!

Like everything else, it's a trade-off

My ex stayed home. It was her preference and I supported her on it. She wanted to raise the kids and help at school and do the mom thing. And, of course, that made many things easier on me. But in many ways it was harder on me. There's a lot of pressure in having the only income and knowing that if you get fired or layed off, there's no money coming in.

The down sides are obvious. And when we separated it was very hard (still is) for her to get to a place where she can maintain a house and the kids and her life. Not to mention that she didn't have a college degree before hand.

It would be interesting to know how my ex feels about having gone down that road now. I think she still feels it was the right thing for the kids, just very hard on her now.