So i have been dating this guy for almost 2 months now, and i have never had this strong of feelings.... however half of our relationship so far he was gone for work, he came back a week from today and we had spent 4 days together, then he decided he wanted to move in with his cousin..... no big deal.... so then after i had dropped him off at his friends car that night... he said he would call me... never did. So then the next day i had texted him and called him... no answer... wondering where he had went i called his sister to see if she had heard from him. Nothing. Apparently he was out of town, i was never informed. So now for the last 4 days he has not really talked to me but a few texts. I have been just trying to stop thinking about it, but it is hard for me. Do you have any suggestions on what i should do? And should i try to continue to contact him, or just call it quites? Alot of information, and i would like all the suggestions i could get. Thanks

find his best friend

Don't call him or text. Let him call you. And by no means contact his family again!

Give it time,

Honestly after only a couple of months...and if you are calling my sister to keep tabs on me...would just reinforce the fact that you might be coming on as clingy/desperate something that is a turn off for most guys...

When that happened to me, it turned out he had suddenly lost interest.

Okay it has been 4 fours... i feel left in the dark.... it drives me nuts when i don't know what is going on.... maybe i just think to much and worry too much. I have been trying to ignore it... but it is one of those things the keeps biting you in the ass.

4 fours?

don't waste your time...move on with your life

i meant 4 days.... sorry.....

ONLY 4 hours?? Girl, give that man some breathing room!

Oh.. if you haven't heard from in 4 days?? Time to move on..don't call him, let him contact you. And don't make yourself so readily available to get together either.

What you probly want to hear...Fight for him, give in and call him, he will answer this time. Once you finally get a hold of him, you will be able to talk things out rationally.

Here is what will happen. You'll call, and get mad at yourself because you feel like your acting desperate, and then get mad because you realize how many messages you left him. You get pissed that he hasn't contacted you, and when he finally does, you'll blow up on him.

Don't call him. As hard as it is, find something else to do with your time. He's probly having a blast right now, and is concentrating on that. Being pushy only works if you have perfect timing, and that is rare to never. this is why girls and guys invented girls and guy's night out. So that we don't have to sit there and wonder what the hell is going on. And in the grand scheme of things, 4 days isn't that long. It seems like forever, because its the begaining of a relastionship.

Just chill out and do something fun yourself.

no girlie 4 days.... lol... 4 hours lol no way i'm not that desperate.

Great Advice! Thanks

4 days? as jules said, give him some breathing room.

I hope this doesn't offend you....but i'm giving you a guys perspective(well at least mine) to me what you are doing comes off as totally desperate/needy...and honestly i'd run!!!! especially contacting my family. It sounds like you NEED a man not WANT one.

I like that..... you know your right.... i am just trying to keep busy finding things to do to keep my mind off of everything.... it's hard to think about it... and i don't want too... been trying to take up reading.... but i don't think that is working either.

I don't take offense to it.... and that's why i am asking... i like the truth.... and you are kind of right about saying that i NEED a man instead of WANT one.... in a way that is true... but in a way it is not...

Fallow those rules!

I think the thing that is eating away at me the most is why the heck did he stop talking to me? I never did anything.....

Trust me honey....4 days....if he loved you...you would not be mentioning the 4 days....


I need to say more. Babe...there ARE men out there who will not do this to you...who will never let you wonder.

Don't waste your time on the likes of these men who will make you hang for 4 days....

know that you are worth more than this.....