Well I do understand were your coming from my ex very seldom picked up the kids and if he did it was only for the weekend. And at times only part of the weekend.

I know it is hard but.....in the end when the kids get older they will finally see who was always there when they needed someone.

It was many years later after my divorce that my son came out and said something to me. That made me glad that no matter what I stuck by them. Guess he was around 21 or so and we were talking. And he told me that he always knew that I loved him and said thank you mommy for always being there for me no matter what I did.

And in the next breath he said Daddy was never had the time.

Sad but true my kids love their Dad and I use to tell them all the time that their Dad loved them in his own way. Regardless what I thought of him I never told my kids that he did not love them. He just did not seem to find time or the need.

Some seem to think no matter what they are the parent and the kids will automatically love them no matter what.

But it don't happen that way. With Love you have to give it to receive it in return.

You have a reason to vent but.......it is her loss and your gain in the end. No matter how hard it may be through the years in raising them. I did mine for 16 years by myself no one lived with me but my kids I pretty much put my life on the back burner. I dated some but no one meet my kids till we had dated 2-3 months. It is not and easy road to take but,,,,,,in the end the rewards are far greater then one even realizes.

My kids are 23 & 25 now and very stable within their lives.

So kuddos for you for what your doing. Just remember the rewards in the end you will cherish ever minute you gave them as they will you for doing so.