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Topic: To Be Me or To Not
SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Fri 08/22/08 04:16 PM
I have a problem knowing whether to be myself and who I really am. Don't get me wrong I know better than to be just me and never act like someone else but ..... I am confident and bubbly, outgoing and happy.... I got told once that men don't like this in a woman.... I'm not loud and over the top but I know who I really an and who I wanna be, but I think I scare men off due to my confidence.... I' m not confident with my body or anything like that but like just I like to be open as a person so people can get to know me.... Shall I tone down? Shall that really help me not scare them off? last one... i know im bugging you all

SkaryKoolAide Joined Thu 08/14/08 Posts: 1154	Fri 08/22/08 04:17 PM
one big thing i look for in woman is confidence so wth dont be afraid to be yourself

forman562 Joined Tue 11/13/07 Posts: 78	Fri 08/22/08 04:18 PM
being yourself is not wrong the right one wil appreciate that and care for you as you are

JoLynn Joined Sun 10/07/07 Posts: 516	Fri 08/22/08 04:21 PM
i think as long as your not burpin' and fartin', your good Be yourself...that's how you'll find who you are truly meant to be with.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Fri 08/22/08 04:21 PM
do what you do

plk1966 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 31042	Fri 08/22/08 04:22 PM Edited by plk1966 on Fri 08/22/08 04:24 PM
be who you are, if they like you that's great if not you do need be with them anyway

ledi180 Joined Sun 04/15/07 Posts: 5910	Fri 08/22/08 04:23 PM
Yep, I'm with the others on this one - just be you.

maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Fri 08/22/08 04:25 PM
I have a problem knowing whether to be myself and who I really am. Don't get me wrong I know better than to be just me and never act like someone else but ..... I am confident and bubbly, outgoing and happy.... I got told once that men don't like this in a woman.... I'm not loud and over the top but I know who I really an and who I wanna be, but I think I scare men off due to my confidence.... I' m not confident with my body or anything like that but like just I like to be open as a person so people can get to know me.... Shall I tone down? Shall that really help me not scare them off? last one... i know im bugging you all trying to be someone your not will leave you very unhappy. i think you are a very strong and beautiful woman be what makes you happy. happines should be the simplest thing in life to reach. let your heart tell you what makes you happy not others.

feralcatlady Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 35491	Fri 08/22/08 04:26 PM
I think a woman's greatest asset is herself....Love all about yourself.....and if someone doesn't like it...tell them to suck on a rock.....I love me more then anyone...and thats just how it is....

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Fri 08/22/08 04:27 PM
Why would you not want to be who you really are? If someone can't take you the way you truly are...then they are not the right one for you! I think men do find it attractive when women have confidence in themselves...so just keep doing what you are doing!! Be patient, the right one will come along

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Fri 08/22/08 04:29 PM
Well I didn't mean change who I am entirely I just meant tone down and such... I know not to change myself for a man but I could see about maybe watching my mouth or forwardness somewhat... ha thank you though you all are great...