A friend of mine (in her 40s) is dating a man (in his 40s)-
She has children, he has none. He wants to have children of his own that
is why she thinks he has not made a committment.
He sends her mixed messages saying she is not the "right" one for him
and "he can never give her the relationship she wants" so they both tell
each other they can date other people. However, he has not dated anyone
else. Recently when she told him she was dating a very nice guy he got
jealous and said she has always been the only thing he needs. I told her
she needs to tell him to "poop or get off the pot"
Was that the right advice?

Sounds right to me. She needs an answer one way or the other.

She should stop lying about meeting a nice guy and just ask him what he
wants from her, and go from there.

She needs to know what is going on, one way or the other.

No more procrastinating. It gets you nowhere. I have gone through
something like that, and it is heartbreaking when you both want
something different.

lol nurjoyce i agree with u

sounds right to me but i wouldn't give them another chance.

yup, sounds like the guy needs to learn how to express himself a bit
better

He's already told her he wants kids. Right now, he doesn't have anyone
in his life who can (or will) give him what he wants. So he's "settling"
for what he can get. Soon as he finds "mama material," he'll be gone so
fast her head'll spin.

I say kick him to da coib!

Sounds like jeanc is right. He wants his cake and eat it too. He may not
be playing but he is looking. So if he is not playing then she can’t
play either. But as soon as what he is looking for comes alone, he’s
gone.