a good parent? My ex is a great dad although he sucked at being a husband. I know some people hate when their children have to go to the other parent's house, but I encourage it for two reasons, 1) it was not her fault that we are divorced and she needs to know he loves her and 2) she needs to know his family as well as mine.

What's your opinion?

My son's dad is not a bad person but a bad parent. He got mixed up in drugs and I havent seen him in years......

the best advice I got from an attorney was "it's not the divorce that will affect the kids but the way you get along"

I get along with my ex so well that now that I live in another state and I visit often he allows me to stay with him and this weekend my current bf and I are traveling there and staying with him- he is a great Dad and a wonderful friend

I agree with your reasons.

wow... that's great! we don't get along quite that great, but we do get along.

Yes, and we work very hard to work together in raising our kids. We stay geographically close and support each other for their sake.

my ex and i have 3 kids.. he WAS a good dad.. until he meet his new girlfriend.. while we were together.. then it was.. screw the kids.. he left.. now he dont see them.. i've tried and tried.. he told our oldest which is 3 that he dont fu--ing wanna see him and he needs to just think he was dead.. yeah.. hes an ass.. lol.. but.. he dont see them nor does he support them in any way.. I would do anything to have my kids be around thier dad the way he was.. not the way he is now..


I know what yall mean about needing to get along.. I wish we could.. My kids need a daddy also.. But.. I guess I can just say atleast they have thier mommy until he gets back on track!

wow... that's awful. I can't imagine what you must go thru when they ask for him.

I do not understand how anyone could be that cruel to a child... some people should not have children....how sad and I am glad thye have you in their lives...

well.. to be truthful.. he has only been gone since june 27th and they just dont ask for him now.. they are 1, 2 and 3.. they were but i would just say.. daddy is at work right now baby.. they gave up.. they dont even say the word dada or daddy.. its kinda sad..

awwwwwwwww... that is sad, but at least they are loved by you

My ex sucked as a wife and parent...and thats why I have custody

Being recently divorced I agree! It kills me when my daughter calls at 9 at night and wants to come home and I can't go get her. I tell her it is daddy's time and she needs to spend time with him. But what do you do when they say "but he is spending all his time with his new girlfriend and ignoring me"

My last girlfriend had her kids took away

My ex and i have been divorced since my son was 3. He is 7 now and only sees his dad about 3 times a year... he lives 500 miles away so its hard to visit more. My boy misses his dad, but understands that it is better for us to be apart than together. The ex is an okay parent... he doesnt know much about it since he realy hasnt had to be one...ever.

I am SO sorry!!!! Someone will be there for you AND the kids one of these days!!!! My ex had 2 children when we got together. Their Dad never came around at ALL!!!! He was a deadbeat and disappeared and I raised the children!!! One of them even had a terminal disease and needed special care. I was Daddy to both of them.....I loved them as my own....

So.....there ARE some of us out there that say......leave him to his cruelty and keep the kids away!!! They'll be better off as children and as adults too.....

Sorry I'm so blunt....

My daughter's father used to see her once a week most weeks. Now I found out he has a girlfriend (I think he has enough sense to respect my daughter and not force feed her someone that he is just dating... hopefully for his sake) and he told me Monday he will only see her twice a month so he can "have a life." First thing to run through my mind... well isn't that convenient! (When was I allowed to have a life?)Aside from that my daughter misses that retard. We are amicable. I try not to deal with him much and have him pick her up from my parents house. He expects my 6 year old to act like an adult. He takes her to see violent movies (that really bugs the hell out of me) and has 3 times fed her expired milk... and when she was vomiting from the food poisoning who do you think was missing work and caring for her... wasn't the culprit. I am civil for her sake and say nothing against him. Although I am seething inside. In the long run I know that this is the best route for my daughter ... once she's older and can see things in a clear light who knows... maybe she will be the one to pull away from her father that doesn't prioritize her.

My childrens father is NO WHERE close to being a good parent...he wasnt a good husband(abusive) he isnt a good son or a good human being..period..he has NO CONTACT with his children and it will continue to be that way as long as Im breathing

My ex is a good mom and friend.

No, hes not, he basically disowned our daughters,, he only has contact with our son, his choice,,