Shadow...

This is my priorities in my life which I am sure some are going to disagree.... at this point...

I am first: my education, future career, getting myself in a place where I will be financial comfortable (now this doesn't mean partying, leaving my child with people for days etc, most of the time I am dragging my son to places hoping that he behaves)

My son is second. Only in the fact that when it comes down to writing a paper or spending all afternoon cuddling with my son; I have to make that choice to do the paper first.

Now I am currently talking with someone and have plans to meet him very soon. My son will also be meeting him. We have talked about how my son fits into everything, what would happen if we got married and had children. I think that the thing that is most striking to me about the person that I am talking with is that he stated 'when I told you that I loved you, I was also saying that I loved your son.' This is important. I also think that its important that women, put themselves first (not their boobs or naughty places, but their whole selves) This means only entering into a relationship where the man is going to respect them and their children.

I firmly believe that when you get married (taking religion out of the equation) that the marriage comes first. Partly because when you take care of the marriage and make it a healthy one that makes for a healthy family. Children need to see more healthy, 'normal' relationship. I know that my parents are the example of what not to do in marriages (yes multiple marriage for both) However, my grandparents are my example of what a healthy marriage looks like.


again jmo.

Well my kids never met anyone I dated till at least 2-3 months later. My kids had a Dad and they did not need men in and out of their lives. Heck I dated one guy for 12 years he was in the same situation I was in and wanted to spend the extra time with his kids. We never lived together but we all did do things together. But we put our kids first.

Just went different ways in the end but still friendly with each other to this day.

Well my kids never met anyone I dated till at least 2-3 months later. My kids had a Dad and they did not need men in and out of their lives. Heck I dated one guy for 12 years he was in the same situation I was in and wanted to spend the extra time with his kids. We never lived together but we all did do things together. But we put our kids first.

Just went different ways in the end but still friendly with each other to this day.

You dated a guy for 12YEARS?

As crazy as it sounds, nope it will be the first time I meet the person also.

Ok, i don't mean any harm hear. But how they hell can somone love somone they never met or even seen? it's just my opinion. isn't that false feelings? You never actually spent anytime with this person so how can you or anyone actually know if you love them or not and for somone to say they love your kids. Sorry, for me. to much to soon for somthing you do not know whats going to happen. I mean. What happens if you meet and your not attracted to them?

Then we aren't attracted to each other or one to another. We already know that at the very least we will be friends.

I know some people can not understand how someone can love someone without spending face to face time with the person. And I don't expect everyone to understand, nor would I want everyone to understand.

I don't know what else to tell you. Cause whatever I say may or may not make sense to you.

Then we aren't attracted to each other or one to another. We already know that at the very least we will be friends.

I know some people can not understand how someone can love someone without spending face to face time with the person. And I don't expect everyone to understand, nor would I want everyone to understand.

I don't know what else to tell you. Cause whatever I say may or may not make sense to you.

i dont like to date guys with kids because i dont like kids, and i dont want any