my daughter is 25yrs old and has been separated from her soon to be ex hubby for over a yr, and she has re-start the divorce papers all over again... she going through a change as where she is exploring area which is her choice and im not against it... but this part i feel is not right... my youngest granddaughter is 2/2yrs ago and she been calling my daughter(gf) daddy j. well first off she not a guy she far from that but yet she has no hair and no breast so i guess in some people she may look like one.. but as long as my daughter is happy and the kids are being treated right, is what matters, my mom was telling her she felt that the kids needed counsling to deal with there emotions which i agree, you look at my grandson he 10yrs old and you can see his feelings and you can see what he thinking, but he doesnt express them you can read his thoughts just the way he acts.there dad has been in jail for over 1yr and he will be there for another 5yrs.he wasent there much in the beganing and so the baby doesnt really know him only by pics.. but i feel her calling my daughter gf that is a bit stupid, and i called my daughter last nite to talk to her and i ask her about it, and she thought nothing was wrong... boy!!! she is wrong.. the baby is going to be more confused then ever when she gets older.... WHAT DO YOU THINK!!!!

this jmo but i believe that as long as your daughter is explaining things to the children as they grow up i dont think there will be that much confusion. it is getting to be fairly common that 2 women are raising a family. communication is going to be the key with it.


best of luck

you raised your daughter...now let her raise her own child....

or

keep butting in....if you want to "remove" them from your life

i never butted in before on her raising her kids, but would you let your 2yr old call your gf daddy???

honestly...i agree that it is a bit much to call her daddy.
if your daughter is still exploring things and this relationship isn't a solid one it's definitely going to mess with the child's head. She won't know WHO to call daddy in the end and I think she'll be quite confused if counseling isn't being sought after for both children. There are a few issues in these kids lives that normal children should not have to deal with.

Maybe everyone IS right in saying you shouldn't 'butt' in to your daughter's affairs in that she will rebel against you and push you out...but I'm thinking she needs the advice. Hopefully she'll come around to some clear thinking for her childrens' sake.

i agree with Queene123.. It is not right! Not at all. First off, you're daughter shouldn't even let them call her daddy.. thats so messed up.. Secondly. You are her mother. you have every right to "butt" in. Regaurdless of anything. Not tryin to offend anyone, but only the ones who are for "same sex" will tell you, there is nothing wrong with it. When you and I both know differently.. Maybe your daughter will come around and realize it herself.. Hopefully sooner than later..Anyways.. good luck to you.. and Just talk to God..He listens when no one does...

OK .....YOU DO NOT NEED TO BUTT OUT OF HER LIFE!!!

IT IS YOUR JOB AS A GRANDMOTHER TO LOVE AND PROTECT THEM. I HAVE A FRIEND IN THE SAME SITUATION AS YOUR DAUGHTER, HER DAUGHTER IS 11 AND IS SO VERY MESSED UP OVER THE WHOLE "GIRLFRIEND" THING. I AM PRO CHOICE SO WHAT YOU WANNA DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS FINE , BUT DAMN THINK OF WHAT YOU WILL DO TO YOUR CHILDREN!
YES, THEY NEED TO TALK WITH SOMEONE OUTSIDE OF THE FAMILY ABOUT THIS. HAVE YOU CALLED THE SCHOOL? IN MY STATE WE HAVE pSYCS AT OUR SCHOOLS. MAYBE CALL THEM JUST TO LET THEM KNOW YOUR CONCERN FOR THE CHILDRENS MENTAL BEING.
GOOD LUCK HUN!

only the 2yr old is calling my daughter gf daddy.. the other 2 are 10 and 8 and they know there dad. and im sure they have questions to ask. and they told my mom that she treats them right. which is what should be.. but having the 2yr old call her daddy is wrong... i felt like email my daughter gf and telling her what i felt, but then if i did my daughter would get mad at me for that

sit down with your daughter over dinner ... just you two...
talk then...if she begins to get upset or mad, let her talk and listen. try to respond TO her not AT her. maybe that will help.

I think I have to agree with this...Your Grandchildren arent in danger because of this G/F..leave her alone to live her own life and raise her own children..If you dont, you very well could push her away and you wont have them in your life at all...

The only question I have is why daddy J instead of mommy j? gender identification is so important especially at that age.

When my children were young, they called all adults either Aunt or Uncle and then their name including my gay friends, but stillused the correct gender when doing so. JMO

my granddaughter or the other 2 dont need 2 mothers. they know there mom. and the youngest doesnt need to call my daughter gf daddy, she calls her that for j doesnt look like a girl, she has no hair or breasts... i feel when she gets older she going to be a very confused child.

I think it's up to your daughter to decide what her youngest calls her partner but maybe its a temporary thing because she misses her dad.After all the partner is fulfilling the step parent role.

how can the youngest miss her dad. she doesnt even know him, she hasent seen him for over a 1yr. she only knows him by pics and thats about it.. his name has never been mention to her that i know of. and i have never heard her say daddy before