This love thing I mean. Most threads that are drawn up on the subject display what a deceptive and hurtful game this can be.

What is the middle ground? Is it best if we all just have casual one night stands and forget about this endless love theme!!
But keep ourselves STD free by using precautions, of course.

I know couples that are married/living together and all I ever see them doing is arguing and fighting with one another.

Lets be honest how many true love stories do you really know of??

How many people who are married nowadays are truly happy. They will say they are happy but are they??

What is your view?
Do you long for love and are willing share the rest of your days with that one person??
Do you think it is best to remain single and have fun with lots of different people until a day comes when you just want someone for company??

I have been waiting half my life and nothing is happening, I think I may just start the one night stand game and have fun all the time!!

Love doesn't exist, when you calculate in the divorce rate and the percentage of average relationships where one or both parties has or will cheat...it simply doesn't exist anymore. Go ahead, prove me wrong...I would enjoy that.

Some cause happiness wherever they go;

others, whenever they go.

Theres a song..."Love is war"...that an old friend turned me onto....it sums up everything. I don't know if I even believe in it..never seen a happily married couple

It is rare, but I've not only heard of a few, I've seen 3 couple in my life that we together pretty much their whole life, and when one passed on, the other was miserable until they passed too shortly thereafter.

I think you are right Fear. It is just a load of bollocks stemmed from hollywood and books!!

Its all about Lust

Being honest, the only time I see couples happy is the time they spend together before they have sex then it all goes downhill rapidly!!
The whole niceness thing at the start of the relationship is stemmed from lust!!

Which, by the way, is what I always wanted, ONE person to love and be loved by for the rest of our time here, to be committed to and lost in, I know I'm not the only one that feels that way, just a shame for the fact that there are so few others that do.

There is hope!!
Its good to read your post!!

It's worth it to some. My parents are still happily married after 36 years. I have quite a few friends who also have parents who are still happily married.

I have seen two marriages that have lasted my two aunts. Hell they still wear aprons when they cook.

Now days you hear about speed dating it should be speed marriages.

I was raised old school but I think now that it is just a dream to have love and marriage.

My view is there is love and then there is sex can't have both at one time. I maybe wrong but I have yet to find the two at one time.

I havent met a person, place or thing that was perfect. Why should love be any different??? The problem lies in picking the wrong person.......people need to be really picky when choosing their life partner!

I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!!

But Em is it really happy or is it an act of convienence or fear of change. I think love was more respected in previous times but nowadays it is all about good sex and material values!!

I wish there was more people like your parents around in this day!!

For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul.



I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some.

But gypsy picking your lifetime partner may actually take a lifetime to find them!!

I'm sure there are married couples out there who are together for convenience. But, to think anyone who is still married is like that?? Why?

I think you can have a great relationship with one person for the rest of your life...but marriage ruins everything...put that ring on and seal your fate One ring to rule them all...

The biggest problem is the fact that so many expect a "perfect" looking and acting partner.....there is no such thing. The most basic things should be tolerance and acceptance. Nothing is perfect to start with, but with just a little work, a like-minded partner, and the commitment to not throw everything away just because it might not be beatiful or perfect or might develop a problem or two, it can be perfect to the two involved, and that's when you grow true happiness to last.