Walks away in disgust... To much Drama for me in here.

walks on past

Just so everyone knows, I know and believe in opinions and also know we
all won t agree and thats fine. I however come to here to relax and can
very well speak for myself, So when someone speaks for me and states
what they believe I feel is correct, well IMHO it s to stir feathers and
cause Drama.

That being said..... I ll move on

Its not that we ignor you, its that women continue to want to be
pursued and courted once caught.
Its a lot of work and guys should have to do it once the cat,s in the
bag.

roflmao!!!

sorry, should not have to do it once the cat,s in the bag.

"Why is it that you men will pursue a female and as soon as they let you
know that they are interested you will start ignore?"

It goes both ways. Admittedly, I've been/done on both sides. Its ego
stroking at its worst, its playful seduction when benevolent. Its
insecure at one end, and can also be playful probing of the
relationship.

I can appreciate everyones difference of opinions to the topic, but let
me just give a little more information so that all might understand
better what I'm saying! I have been corrisponding with this man from
another site and we really hit it off totally....when we met in person
everything went very smooth,the conversation at dinner and the chemistry
was there,there was so much passion between us....he emailed the next
morning and called me,IMed me and talked in detail about how much he
enjoyed our date and how he wanted to see me again very soon.he lives
out of town almost 2 hrs away from me and his career is very demanding
of his time and says he want to be exclusive but asked me if i could
deal with only seeing him once a week. I called him this evening at 8:30
and he was a little short and said he was at a meeting and he never
returned my call but he had been on the site that we both belong to but
never left me any messages!! what does anyone make of that? As soon as I
let him know i liked him,he started ignoring and just the day before he
was all sprung!! any advice or input would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks Tammy/RaceNut17

I can appreciate everyones difference of opinions to the topic, but let
me just give a little more information so that all might understand
better what I'm saying! I have been corrisponding with this man from
another site and we really hit it off totally....when we met in person
everything went very smooth,the conversation at dinner and the chemistry
was there,there was so much passion between us....he emailed the next
morning and called me,IMed me and talked in detail about how much he
enjoyed our date and how he wanted to see me again very soon.he lives
out of town almost 2 hrs away from me and his career is very demanding
of his time and says he want to be exclusive but asked me if i could
deal with only seeing him once a week. I called him this evening at 8:30
and he was a little short and said he was at a meeting and he never
returned my call but he had been on the site that we both belong to but
never left me any messages!! what does anyone make of that? As soon as I
let him know i liked him,he started ignoring and just the day before he
was all sprung!! any advice or input would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks Tammy/RaceNut17

"Why is it that you men will pursue a female and as soon as they let you
know that they are interested you will start ignore?"

Hi Tammy,
Just from my experience, after my first divorce, I would get in
relationships and then I would get scared. Didn't want the
again! I think I was scared of the commitment. Was a long
time ago. I've not really had the chance to be scare in a relationship
since the last divorce. My first marrage only lasted 10 months or so.
One of those right out of school dumb moves! LOL Not really sure
how I would react to a woman really liking me and being on the chase for
me, might scare me. Maybe one day that will happen to me and I can
explain better??

Oh well, at least I wasted a little time trying to think up old
memories!

Racenut, I've had similar things happen, and more than once. Bottom
line? He's a juvenile, rude, inconsiderate a**hole, and you're better
off without him. Be glad you found out now how immature this man is,
rather than later.

sounds to me that he's building a "HAREM" and wanting to add you to
it.....of course without your knowing about it.

meet you once a week? sounds like you'd be a mistress

hummm have u ever traveled to his town? met some of his friends or did
ya just meet that once.. was he in a meeeting with his wife? or was the
meeting a different date? if he was really into u like he told u... he
would of called i agree with new guy.. and jean both! not the guy for
u!!! keep searching

Racenut17,
LOL first of all this is the internet and probably half the nuts on here
are married. So of course the chase stops when you show interest. Get
over it and move on. Not all men are like that even some of the ones you
meet online. Until you actually meet someone and can look them in
the eye can you say they are like that. If you choose to show interest
in a man after chatting with him only twice or even 4 times online, then
chances are they wont be contacting you as much. Any man on here that is
really interested in you, I feel you wont know it until after a while. I
can say from experience that the two or three men that I have met from
online I chatted with for at least 8-12 months before we even met. Not
that that is a normal time frame, just a point of reference. Of course
you can find that special someone within a month or a week of meeting on
line...and Peter Pan lives right next door to me and we have dinner
every wednsday night....good luck!!

Tammy,
Just read your stuff about your meeting with this guy. Come on now..he
lives two hours out from you, you call him and he is short with you
(because you probably interrupted his dinner with his wife or
girlfriend), you have now scared him half to death and he is probably
wondering whether you can be trusted to perform the way he thinks you
should when you are having an affair. And that sounds like all it is.
His job and the fact that he is a ways away sounds like he just wants a
little booty call now and then, and he had to act like he was sprung to
get you into the sack. Something you gave off in the beginning let him
know you were an easy mark..Let him alone and move on to someone who
likes you for you, and who wont try to bed you down 5 minutes after you
meet....I just came back from a 5 day trip to Maui all by myself. Did I
meet someone? No! The cliff diver was kind of cute but he was
"busy"..lolol....and so was I for that matter. Girl get out and stop
looking for someone to validate you. Validate yourself and treat
yourself good first. Then and only then can someone else treat you the
same