Nearly every relationship I have had has failed due to him having more feelings for another girl. Some cheated on me during the relationship, others were actually considerate enough to break it off before anything happened. Am I falling for the "bad boys" or am I not fulfilling some aspect that is imperative to all relationships?

bad boys are for fun...not to have a relationship with

Eternal Sun

Some days when the skies cloud over
We don't know what to do
Should we give up or carry on
Or move to somewhere new?

If we always wanted summer
Forever we would roam
And the closer we got to the sunshine
The further we'd be from home

The sooner that we learn
To see the seasons through
The closer we'll become
There lives eternal sun...

- Paul Hanafin -

Babe, You are just too nice, thats all..

Guys take you for granted it sounds like..and I bet if they have stink w/ their New Girlfriend, they always come crawling back to you..am I right?
Well let them know that you are not just a sidedish, you are the main course!

Bad Boys, like Bad Girls;) and they play the nice girls!

You are right:). I have had that happen to me several times. Thank you for your reply:).

THank you

I should try to find the sweet ones. I always think that I'll find something good in the bad boys.

I always felt that girls go for the bad boys as if it were a challenge to try and make them good.
Like good versus evil.
Bad boys and bad girls are just people who lose interest in a relationship over time. It is most likely due to sexual relations or no sex being offered.

Trust your instincts. If you get a feeling that this is not quite right just dump em and move on. Try not to let them take a piece of you.

I think it is harder for the girls to find someone nice than it is for the boys. Most girls (not all) are good natured whereas the buck (not all but alot) is all about bragging rights!!

I cannot count how many young females sexual activities were discussed across a table of beers.I was ashamed to be sitting at the table. I did leave it! Its immoral!!!!!!!

Love is like a gentle breeze

that cascades through your entire being,

filling every fiber with emotion so deep

your heart grows wings.

SOME guys are pigs....but i have also had that problem with women...it seems that they keep going for the "bad guys" after a while...eventually you will find the guy that will not do that to you, just keep your head up and maybe start looking at guys that you normally wouldn't

Good luck with that. " Sweet " guys normally don't have the " bad boy " type attitude that seems to be a good sized portion of the attraction.

It has nothing to do with trying to make them good. It is for the fun and excitement they bring with them. We just forget they also bring pain and heartbreak with them.

Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

Don't give up you for the relationship.

Compromise in situations, not yourself for a situation.

If they have the signs that they wanna be with someone else, set them free to do so.

IT'S NOT YOU IT'S THEM.

Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.

Don't take ANYONES word for ANYTHING, take their ACTIONS for EVERYTHING.

I've been there, done that, got the tee-shirt... You'll find your way... I did.

agreed.

Maybe you keep falling for the same type of men?? Thats exactly what I was doing and I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong..it seemed like I was attracting all the wrong ones. Then my best friend got me this book, In The Meantime:Finding Yourself and the Love You Want by Iyanla Vanzant. Its a very good book and it shows how you keep picking the wrong ones and you never better yourself.
Actually, you can google it and read it off the computer. I have read it 3 times now and each time I read it...I get something different out of it.
Good luck

I do not believe it is you being too nice. I think what it comes down to is most guys are jerks and they do not think with their minds but instead with their groin.

It is a tricky thing finding someone who will be faithful at your age as they are into playing the field. It's simple hormones.

My best advice would be to accept it for now at this stage in your life. Do not expect to find the one and only one. If that is what you are seeking then look so someone who is getting out of the clubbing/drinking scene or never went there. Avoid the guys who date around a lot. You will have much better luck when you get older. Don't let this time in your life turn you into a bitter woman. Play it on the sidelines if you must.

You are an attractive person. You are very intelligent and caring. You will find someone so don't give up, just learn from each past relationship.

What fun and exictement? Doing drugs, speeding in cars, robbing places, us good guys do that aswell but care for the girls feelings!!!

No, bad boys don't have to have anything to do with drugs, cars, theft. There are plenty of law abiding bad boys. It's an attitude, not criminal activity.

The whole bad boy image is just smoke and mirrors anyway. They can't show their real selves so they create one, and once the smoke clears, all you get is a piece of crap thats not worth your time.

Anyway, if I lived closer I would totally take you out Dreamer

Can you give an example of the attitude??