So, tonight, I went with three friends to see a movie. Of course, one out of those three really has my interest. And, the word is that hes interested in me too.
He and I have known each other for a few months and usually get along great. Its always a little awkward because hes the shyest guy Ive ever met, and for some reason, Im shy around him. But we usually work through it and have had an okay friendship.

But tonight, the tension was unbelievable. After hearing all these things about him and what hes said about me, my mind went blank and I had nothing to say. I had things planned to say but I totally forgot them. And if it werent for my two other friends talking from time to time, the tension would have just been unbearable.

How do you work through that?
And, how the hell do you deal with such a shy guy?

I want to hang out with him again. Just us though. Im wondering if maybe forcing us to be alone would in turn force us to learn how to speak to each other again.
Or is that a terrible idea?

It sounds like it may be the only way to get him to talk. I find being funny/ silly helps in this situation (if you can manage it)

hmmmmm Good luck I could not deal with a guy that shy. So what is it that attracts you to him?

try t-a-l-k-i-n-g

I am kind of a shy guy myself. The two of you should hang out alone. It will be the only way you will be yourselves in front of each other. No one like an audience when they stick there neck out.

patience might work best with someone who is shy. the more you hang out with him the more comfortable he will feel with you. Try to find something to do that you both enjoy. Something where you interact with each other to help keep the conversation going.

Hes genuine, kind, and intelligent [all rare things]. Plus, he has a really cute smile. Heh.

Yeah, I figured the same. Im just wondering if that would backfire.

When all thought leaves your brain, its hard to talk and not make yourself look like a total moron at the same time. ><

If it were to "back fire" it would be because of incompatability. Better to find out sooner than later. Take a chance. At least you know who you'd like to take a chance with.

If it were to "back fire" it would be because of incompatability. Better to find out sooner than later. Take a chance. At least you know who you'd like to take a chance with.

I don't know why that double posted.

either you clicked post reply twice or something else

All great traits, so you must have talked to him quite a bit already to know them.

clear your mind,dont worry about the conciquences,say what you feel and just let it out,even if you got to force it out

Alisha I think you'll do fine with him one on one. Good night everyone.

there is only one way to find out

When all thought leaves your brain, its hard to talk and not make yourself look like a total moron at the same time. ><


If you're willing to put a little effort into something it will be easy. Find out what he's into (Music & Bands, Working out, cars, motor cycles, fishing, etc...) then learn a little about it (so you can talk a bit). Then ask him about it, most likely he'll lead the conversation from there and the little you learned will help him carry the conversation.

Don't work too hard though, if you two can't talk then it just wasn't meant to be....

Too bad you're filtered old men, I had a good Dead Baby joke for you....lol

well you women really have all the power with us shy types. well im only shy with the ones i like. but any way.... just take him some where and spill the beans get out there... the longer you two do not talk the further apart the two of you will grow. i dont think you want that. besides it will give you two something to talk about. get it out there girl.


peace be with you

joshua