I agree with most of the other posters here...he is likely to be very insecure. If you have evaluated the situation fairly and you know that you don't act in a way around your friends which might lead him to be insecure, then ditch him because next he will find a reason not to like your family. Some men like to control women that way and it usually starts with their friends. Does he think your female friends are a bad influence? Just make sure you aren't hooking up with a guy who is trying to separate you from your friends and family...that's just wrong.

i agree to last post my ex tried that if i went to c my family he get mad say i didn't want to spend time with him i always want to leave never do anythign with him i met him on here too but he gone now cuz i free to do wha ti want

mayb we met same guy lol

Well I had a few ex's that had all guy friends! But the problem was that most of them were there ex-bfs! But I never made her choose between them or me! I got fed up with them and they agreed to break-up! Like its that hard for her to get any female friends instead of havin ALL guy friends!!! I may have alot of girls that are my friends, but most of them have Boyfriends or are married, but if im in a relationship Id whether be with my gf then my buddies anytime! Unless she wants time to her self or chill with others thats all good! Some of you may say dump him for that reason but think hard! it may seem insecure but seriously guys do get jealous if girls hang out with other guys and then brag about it to their bfs! I believe that honesty n respect 4 both n to understand each other is better! I know its 2008 and every1 can be best friends with each other but guys do get jealous and mad if their girls go out with other guys and hang with them more then being with bf! But guys that have girlfriends should compromise and get along and be friends with their gfs friends and try make relationship better! Or if any of that doesnt help BREAK UP! AND move on DUDES!

I think u got this mixed up! She is sayin that he doesnt like her havin GUY friends!!! It never said anything about being with other GIRLS!!! The bf should get along with her family and friends and the same goes for her to get along either her friends and family. If the guy is a control freak well DUMP his BUTT!

I will be friends with whoever I damn well please and if the man in my life gets "jealous and mad" then he is an insecure, controlling baby and I don't want him in my life anyway.

ok well here is an easy and strait forward answer ...i think every one of you is wrong...other than the fact that the guy is totally jealous... he has every right to be... but it is not your fault and no you are not the other girls he has had in his life. he needs to chill. you need not talk to your guy friends about it cause it is a thing between the both of you... it will make him feel insecure and not want to hang with you and you guy friends. plus it is disrespectful towards him don't drop your friends but if you disappear for a lil while with minimal contact your friends will understand... pay a little more attention to the bf, it will help him... its all apart of being in a relationship. compromise and growth.. if you cant do that you might be stuck in this rut for some time.

now its not all on you either ... he needs to get over himself ... he is not the center of this relationship. tell him to grow a pair ... buck up... come hang out with you and your friends .... he needs to deal with it. it doesn't matter that you have guy friends you are with him. if he cant get it through his head then yes.... you can only do so much.... and then will it be honorable and right to leave him you can not bring yourself down. but i have a feeling with a little bit of work and patience the two of you will learn a lot from this and grow as individuals.


i have said my piece , there really is no easy answer cause it requires a little bit of effort from the both of you. hoped i could help.



peace be with you



joshua

Joshua - I don't understand why you feel the guy has every right to be jealous of her friends. He does not. If he doesn't trust her, there is something deeply wrong with the relationship to begin with. If he is insecure, that is his problem and he needs to check himself. She should not back away from her friends because he has problems. He needs to work on his own problems or he is never going to be able to have a trusting, adult relationship. She has done nothing wrong; the issues are his. He needs to grow up.

Dude!!! your 100% correct with this issue and i agree with you all the way! If these chicks n guys cant handle it well they create problems and some1 always gets hurt in the long run!

If I was your boyfriend, I'd have wonder why you have to hang out with your guy friends? Is he lacking something you get from hanging out with your guy friends?

I'll have to disagree with the others that he's being insecure. How would you like it if he was hanging out with his gal pals all the time? Are you sure you could say in all honesty that you'd have no problem with that? Somehow I doubt it.

Dude!!! What can I say? Thats wat im tryin to figure out with some of these chicks in here! Like what is this A Shot of Love with so n so? How would they like it if it was the other way around? But to some they dont care they do wat they want! Hesearches ur AWESOME DUDE!!! I like ur opinion and I strongly agree wat u said!

I agree completely.No one should have to end friendships because someone elses jealousy or insecurity..It starts there and pretty soon its family hes jealous of and making her choose between the family and him....

he has every right!!!!! cause they are his feelings!!!! his alone. no it is not this girls fault. I think he does trust her... hes just having a hard time letting go of the **** girls from his past. His problem. however if this girl likes him she will be willing to work on it with him.So many people these days are so damn selfish , all they think is "i'm not getting what i want, ill find someone who can", besides in my first comment , i was saying is that they BOTH need to work on their communication and get it out and LEARN to trust one another. relationships are not easy.... we have to work on them ... its the way it is. Can't give up cause you aren't trusted.
did you give up when a friend or a family member didn't trust you... no.... you worked on it.. sometimes one way but you still worked on. so if you are not willing you shouldn't even be in a relationship.




peace be with you



joshua

you know this type of question is so ****ing old...it pisses me off. the shoe is not on the other foot. it is what it is. no questions about it. if the person has had an experience like this he would or she would EMPATHIZE with the other person. give-give, thats what its always about.... if you see the glass as half empty you will never be disapointed but you will never try, if you see the glass as half full you will be let down and always risk your emotions, but if you see it as a half a glass you will always be able to see it clearly for what it is.



peace be with you



joshua

i never said give up on her friends. i said disapear for a while.... its what we have to do sometimes. when you are with some one we all have to make some sort of compromise thats that. shes not going to abandon her friends and they wont abandon her. WORK on the relationship , you already have established one with your friends, take the boy with you.... no ultimatums , just work on it. im just one person here and my opinion is not the only one that will work for you.it might not at all, i just strongly believe that people GIVE UP TO EASILY THES DAYS LOOKING FOR THE EASY ANSWER WHEN THERE ISN'T ONE.




peace be with you



joshua

Can any of you women in here completely read wat us guys are writing in here??? All of a sudden you all are defending urselves for a really common problem that everyone has!!! Thaylandw is just givin his thought about it and we all shoulld respect each others posts in here n think about it instead of defending it. The person that posted this thread was askin for advise and to why to why her bf is jealous and its common sense the guy is in love with her and doesnt like her being with other guys! They sholuld just talk it over and compromise on a solution. Like if she gets married to some guy! wat shes gonna have all guys asd bridesmaids? Girls be friends with other girls and quit makin friends with every guy you meet. Do you like it if ur boyfriends make friends with other girls? Think about it!!! Its never a 1 way street it goes both ways!!! And stop defendin urselves! It just makes u girls look bad and have no idea wat u all really want just to have a whole buffet of men on ur plate!!!

i agree with that

READ WHAT THIS THREAD IS ABOUT!!!! Its about Girls with GUY friends NOT GIRL friends!!!!! Are some of you women in here read half of wats written in here??? READ the whole problem this girl has!!! And by the way if you missed it its about Girls with GUY friends!!!!! She never mentioned girl friends!!!

Been there, done that. Being a tomboy, I have more guy friends than girl friends. I get along better with most guys and I enjoy alot of the same things as guys. I've had relationships where I was told either give up the guy friends or him. Wonder why I'm single??? As alot of guys will say "BROS BEFORE HOS" Well the same thing goes for me. The boyfriend will go before my Bros. I let a guy I'm seein know upfront about my guy friends and if he has a problem with it, I'll gladly show him where the curb is.
And not one of these guy friends is an ex-boyfriend either.

bros b4 hos haha