He wants to meet her without knowing anything about her..it is customary to at least introduce yourself to someone before going on a date

When I first joined on here, I got an IM from some guy who had never spoken to me before, asking me to meet him for a quickie before work.....I told him I was already at work....he was too late. Then I blocked him.

Was it the Captain?

great,now hes going to be obsessed of you,hes going to make a shrine and then your gonna have to change your name,and move to mexico...jk

It would have been great if it was him, that would mean it wouldn't be so long before we could see each other. No, Jon is 2,557 miles away, this other guy is here on Long Island.

He offered her his phone # so they could talk....And she is a smart women so I am sure if she was going to meet someone it would be in a public place that she drives to after talking on the phone... before the internet we talked more on the phone and just because he is not in the forums is not that bad......

This same thing happen to me....she is not in the forums, not her thing and she sent me her phone # because she wanted to talk to me. She and I have become great friends and I liked her different and unorthodox approach.....

as long as you are SMART and allow people to be people and realize some people will do things in different ways.... It does not make them wrong and in mine and her's case it has worked very well and I have a good friend because of it.

OK but I would have no desire to spend time talking to someone I had not first gotten acquainted with in the forums on via e-mail. It's like walking up to a perfect stranger on the street and giving them your phone number. I think a little pre-screening is necessary to get to that point. Why not just write your number on a public wall and see who calls?

Thanks Sparkle - that's how I felt.

iRon - I know this is a dating site and men hopefully will want to get to know me. But to come at me at midnight and ask if I'm free in the morning - doesn't my profile say I'm a single mom??

No big deal - moving on

Your right no big....As long as we have a good time, feel good about how we handle this place and a above all are safe and smart in our actions. And no one gets hurt and we end up happily ever after these are the things that matter.

Peace