Topic: a boyfriend issue
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Wed 07/23/08 02:03 AM
i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?

kayliz88's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:04 AM
Depends on the guy and how much he cares about you. Honestly, no one on this site can tell you what he would do except for you...

wildflower27203's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:06 AM
well just do it and find out.....if he makes the extra effort then thats good especially if he does actually rekindle the relationship

if he does make the effort theres not point in being in that relationship anyway

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Wed 07/23/08 02:09 AM
Doesn't matter, if you have no feelings for him then leave whether he tries to make you stay or not.

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Wed 07/23/08 02:12 AM
By leave do you mean move out of his place or break up?


i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?


Hawkeyed's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:16 AM
If I'm the guy I prefer you to tell me now not later. later you might stray because you don't have the nerve to tell me sooner, not saying that you will. But it's a recipe for disaster if you keep it from him.

Goofball73's photo
Wed 07/23/08 06:02 AM

i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?



First of all, you need to find out if you still do have feelings for him, and those feelings need to be about wanting to be with him. Ya know, that you love him and you really want to be their. If this is the case, you stay and work on it. If not though......

You need to be honest and tell him how you feel and that you feel the time has come to part ways as boyfriend/girlfriend. No matter what he says, you need to stick to how you feel. If he wants to save the relationship, just tell him you don't see it working and that nothing will change. It's like that old Bonnie Rait song "I can't make you love me if you don't".

franshade's photo
Wed 07/23/08 06:07 AM
i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?


how can someone not involved in this relationship, honestly respond: only two choices as I see it

either he'll take it positively or negatively

sit down and talk with him if you truly have no feelings left for him, he should know

if you're unsure how you feel for him, find out

but be honest about either good luck



Fade2Black's photo
Wed 07/23/08 06:15 AM

i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?




depends on whether HE has any feelings left hon ..

buttons's photo
Wed 07/23/08 06:42 AM
Edited by buttons on Wed 07/23/08 06:43 AM
in most cases i think , the other partner already knows that the other one didnt have feelings anymore.. so i doubt it will come as a shocker to him..time to move on

buttons's photo
Wed 07/23/08 07:22 AM
on the other hand..... what do you care? if in another thread you think hes cheating on you? and you are on here looking for a date id say its over....

s1owhand's photo
Wed 07/23/08 07:31 AM

i dont think i have any feelings left for my boyfriend...if i tell him this...is he more likely to try and make an effort to save the relationship or tell me just to leave?



if you still desire a relationship with him then:

1. you still have some feeling left
2. don't tell him that you have no feeling left
3. do tell him you desire to improve your relationship
4. try joint counseling to help work out your problems

if you tell him you have no feelings left for him he
is liable to decide that it is a hopeless cause and
move on since you can't force anyone to like you.

how would you feel if he told you that he no longer had
any feelings towards you?

on the other hand if it's over it's over and you both
should move on for your own sakes.

flowerforyou

feralcatlady's photo
Wed 07/23/08 10:17 AM
I don't think

and


I don't are two different things...you need to see for sure what your feeling and then of course let him in on it.....I agree it's better to just put it all out there..

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Mon 07/28/08 05:01 AM
you know thats the sad thing in todays day and age , people give up way to ****ing easily.if relationships were easy what would be the point,,,****!! my mother and father use to do this all the time ( fall in and out of love ) but they worked it out. If you give up , im sorry, it shows lack of character , give it your best shot, try really really try, then if all else fails try again.some day (if the two of you are still together) you will be glad you did.



peace be with you



joshua