Hey i have a question for all of yall
there is a girl at work who i really like and she seems to like me back but she has said before that she has a boyfriend but she talks bad about him all the time like her parents hate him, they break up all the time and so on. We went out for breakfast this morning and i realized that i really dig this girl but i dont wanna be that guy
should i make the move to pull her away from her dude or do i just leave it alone
IM SO CONFUSED

hey man, don't be THAT guy...would you want that to happen to you, if you were her boyfriend? I understand that she says that he treats her badly, but if she left him for you what would stop her from leaving you for the next guy?? If you let her know how you feel now then you are putting yourself out there pretty far....and into a bad situation where she would be just out of another relationship.

I have been in that situation and it isn't the best one to start a relationship...plus, you would probably have a mad ex out to get you too....i have to say that you should not tell her unless she breaks up with her boyfriend...but that is just me

yea thats whats been shooting thru my head
but damn this girl is perfect and hes a ****ing dooche
..........
guess its time to move on
****

gofor it

dont do to someone what you would not want done to you.

sounds like it could be a lot of drama. You might be the one getting hurt in the end. Might be best to either wait until they were done with each other or move on. I personally wouldn't wait around for something that might never happen. best of luck.

see the problem is that i kno she doesnt like her dude now but i dont wanna be the pry bar that ends em
she deserves better...
aka me
lol
but yea i dont kno she told her friend at work that she really liked me but last i heard they were still together

somebody is gonna get hurt...and my money is on you if you do this....but i know how you feel, you just don't want to give up something that looks like a REALLY good thing

follow your heart man, only you can make this decision and not regret it

Dont be a rebound person...give it time. If its meant to be for the 2 of you, it will happen like it is SUPPOSED to.

Ya know what...stay her friend,let her figure it out on her own. If your there for her when she decides to leave this guy (and if it's meant to be )you will have a very strong relatiionship.Keep it platonic for now and if you meet someone in the mean time you'll still have a good friend.

I agree with Dawnette be her friend, be there for her and you never know what may become of it.

you might also consider this. She may be a compainer or a secret man hater . WHat's to say that she wouldn't do the same to you once you step into those shoes :)

Welcome to the forums! Enjoy your time and post away.

you do realize, that some guy will be calling you a dousche soon!!!!
she is looking for greener pastures, and will soon move on to the next one,and the next,and the next!!!!
its a classic case of not letting go of her security....until she has the next one.

Good things come to those that wait. Just chill dude. Be there. If it's meant to be it will happen, but pushing her won't produce good results in the end



Sometimes in order for a person to let go of the bad, the good needs to be present. BE PATIENT.