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Topic: Need Advice: Afr. Amer. Baptist Funeral
SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Wed 07/16/08 08:52 AM
I am sorry for being uneducated in this area , but a friend's mother passed away. I don't have a clue what to wear to the services and funeral. I don't mean to generalize, but from what I have heard African Americans tend to wear bright colors to church, and I was wondering if they do the same for funerals. Anyone who could give me some serious advice would be greatly appreciated.

Ted14621 Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 2173	Wed 07/16/08 08:53 AM
Whatever you wear will be fine as long as you are sincere.

1956deluxe Joined Thu 12/06/07 Posts: 8559	Wed 07/16/08 08:55 AM
This sounds racist.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Wed 07/16/08 08:56 AM Edited by itsmetina on Wed 07/16/08 09:47 AM
i'd wear a dress that i would wear to church.i think some people wear black.

James00711 Joined Mon 05/12/08 Posts: 158	Wed 07/16/08 08:57 AM
What ever you wear is ok.

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Wed 07/16/08 08:57 AM
This sounds racist. It's not racist. All types of people have their own traditions, and I want to respect theirs. I loved this woman very much. Don't even go there.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 07/16/08 09:00 AM
I would advise not to wear bright colors, I wouldnt necessarily wear black unless you were close, but any dark or demure color would be ok.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Wed 07/16/08 09:05 AM
OK... let me fill you in. It is more insulting to someone when you try to act like them if you are not, frankly, you will look like a a dorky white girl . Wear what you are comfortable in. A simple black dress/skirt is perfectly fine and you won't feel out of place.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Wed 07/16/08 09:06 AM
This sounds racist. I don't think she is racist at all.

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Wed 07/16/08 09:07 AM
I am sorry for being uneducated in this area , but a friend's mother passed away. I don't have a clue what to wear to the services and funeral. I don't mean to generalize, but from what I have heard African Americans tend to wear bright colors to church, and I was wondering if they do the same for funerals. Anyone who could give me some serious advice would be greatly appreciated. why dont you just ask your friend?

Unknow Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 64077	Wed 07/16/08 09:07 AM
This sounds racist. I don't think she is racist at all. I know shes not..

Unknow Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 64077	Wed 07/16/08 09:09 AM
Wear a neutral colored pant suit..You will be fine. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend's mother.

SCURLOCK Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 216	Wed 07/16/08 09:09 AM
i am a black female as you can see sound a bit racist to me but just in case we wear black or dark brown we dont wear white red organge yellow to funerals we do it just like your culture would do but once again each his own if you there to support the friend then what difference does it matter but dont insult him

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Wed 07/16/08 09:09 AM Edited by SharonM45458 on Wed 07/16/08 09:11 AM
So black would be fine? Thank you all for your advice I am sorry if I came across as racist. Like I said, I have experienced many different cultures and everyone has different traditions. I was just curious and didn't want to offend anyone at the funeral, so I thought I could get a respectful answer here. Thank you again, and God(dess) Bless

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Wed 07/16/08 09:15 AM
So black would be fine? Thank you all for your advice I am sorry if I came across as racist. Like I said, I have experienced many different cultures and everyone has different traditions. I was just curious and didn't want to offend anyone at the funeral, so I thought I could get a respectful answer here. Thank you again, and God(dess) Bless Though I applaud you for trying to honor someone else's traditions... it's not needed in this case. Wear something simple, dark colors or black, and go and pay your respects.

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Wed 07/16/08 09:15 AM
This sounds racist. It's not racist. All types of people have their own traditions, and I want to respect theirs. I loved this woman very much. Don't even go there. Sorry for your loss!!

1956deluxe Joined Thu 12/06/07 Posts: 8559	Wed 07/16/08 09:16 AM
So black would be fine? Thank you all for your advice I am sorry if I came across as racist. Like I said, I have experienced many different cultures and everyone has different traditions. I was just curious and didn't want to offend anyone at the funeral, so I thought I could get a respectful answer here. Thank you again, and God(dess) Bless I have to bite my tongue here.

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Wed 07/16/08 09:17 AM
So black would be fine? Thank you all for your advice I am sorry if I came across as racist. Like I said, I have experienced many different cultures and everyone has different traditions. I was just curious and didn't want to offend anyone at the funeral, so I thought I could get a respectful answer here. Thank you again, and God(dess) Bless I have to bite my tongue here. Say what you will. I know what is in my heart.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Wed 07/16/08 06:46 PM
I am sorry for being uneducated in this area , but a friend's mother passed away. I don't have a clue what to wear to the services and funeral. I don't mean to generalize, but from what I have heard African Americans tend to wear bright colors to church, and I was wondering if they do the same for funerals. Anyone who could give me some serious advice would be greatly appreciated. The best thing to do would be to dress modest in a dark neutral color. I would try to be a little less worried about other peoples customs. Go to the funeral like you would to a dear white friends funeral and the family will appreciate the gesture.

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Wed 07/16/08 07:15 PM
If any of you ever need to attend an Afghani or Iranian funeral, I would recommend you ask about their customs. There are many things we take for granted here which they would be offended by.