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Topic: If you were to fall in love again and remarry...
Jules0565's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:25 AM
WOW.. I can't believe half of what I'm reading... Most are here looking for more than a friendship, true? But yet, most answers are that they never want to remarry.. what's the point then? Isn't that something that we work toward when starting a new relationship.. having it build until the final outcome of marriage? Hmm..perhaps I'm wrong..but that's what I build/work/hope for, I want the commitment (and yes I know you can have that without the PAPER) but if you are committed to that one person, why NOT have that paper?? If things change after marriage, it's due to both parties along that to happen.. like the other thread's have posted, men no longer do the sweet things they've done while courting.. women no longer say the nice things to men (examples) A relationship is work and it's all about what you put into it. Men believe sex changes after marriage, so why bother? Sorry, if that happens then something else actually changed to have that happen, ever think of that? I don't know.. Perhaps my fairytale really doesn't exist that I'm looking for.. because I want to remarry one day..then he's stuck with me forever, I'm not divorcing again!! laugh laugh laugh

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:28 AM

Gilligan's island and resort!!!


SIGN ME UP!!!

no photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:28 AM

Would love to have a wedding outside, if we decide on a wedding. Then either go to Vegas or Eureka Springs,Arkansas. But we really want to spend a week or so in Montana.

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:32 AM

WOW.. I can't believe half of what I'm reading... Most are here looking for more than a friendship, true? But yet, most answers are that they never want to remarry.. what's the point then? Isn't that something that we work toward when starting a new relationship.. having it build until the final outcome of marriage? Hmm..perhaps I'm wrong..but that's what I build/work/hope for, I want the commitment (and yes I know you can have that without the PAPER) but if you are committed to that one person, why NOT have that paper?? If things change after marriage, it's due to both parties along that to happen.. like the other thread's have posted, men no longer do the sweet things they've done while courting.. women no longer say the nice things to men (examples) A relationship is work and it's all about what you put into it. Men believe sex changes after marriage, so why bother? Sorry, if that happens then something else actually changed to have that happen, ever think of that? I don't know.. Perhaps my fairytale really doesn't exist that I'm looking for.. because I want to remarry one day..then he's stuck with me forever, I'm not divorcing again!! laugh laugh laugh



I think marriage is fine for some... I have tried 2 times and had my heart ripped out two times. I gave up everything I had managed to get, 2 times, only to lose it all...2 times.

I do not have a problem however, committing myself to one man. I just dont feel the need at 42 years old, to get married a 3rd time, when I can have the same relationship, if not better, by just having a committed relationship. I can't explain what happens... but it all changes with " I do". Whether both dont feel the need to try any more, or what, I do not know... but im content with not getting married again.

MLG40's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:32 AM

Antarctica for answer one. Answer two; Antarctica. Since; if I were to ever get married again. The passion would be soo hot that we would need to be in the coldest environment to bring the room temperature down to at least 90 degrees.

It never hurts to use our imagination, or does it?

no photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:33 AM
Between my two marrigaes I have put in 20 years.
The wk my last divorce was final I bought a gold pocket watch to symbolize my "retirement" from marraige.
laugh

TxsGal3333's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:33 AM
Humm well if I ever do decide to get married again at least at a small chapel and a cruise for the honeymoon.

Due to the first time it was at the court house and no honeymoon.




PATSFAN's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:34 AM
I have a couple of friends who have been with their girlfriends almost 20 years & they both say, why screw it up by getting married

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:35 AM

I have a couple of friends who have been with their girlfriends almost 20 years & they both say, why screw it up by getting married


I totally agree with that

mscherbear's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:36 AM
Edited by mscherbear on Fri 07/04/08 10:36 AM

WOW.. I can't believe half of what I'm reading... Most are here looking for more than a friendship, true? But yet, most answers are that they never want to remarry.. what's the point then? Isn't that something that we work toward when starting a new relationship.. having it build until the final outcome of marriage? Hmm..perhaps I'm wrong..but that's what I build/work/hope for, I want the commitment (and yes I know you can have that without the PAPER) but if you are committed to that one person, why NOT have that paper?? If things change after marriage, it's due to both parties along that to happen.. like the other thread's have posted, men no longer do the sweet things they've done while courting.. women no longer say the nice things to men (examples) A relationship is work and it's all about what you put into it. Men believe sex changes after marriage, so why bother? Sorry, if that happens then something else actually changed to have that happen, ever think of that? I don't know.. Perhaps my fairytale really doesn't exist that I'm looking for.. because I want to remarry one day..then he's stuck with me forever, I'm not divorcing again!! laugh laugh laugh


I'm with you. I would like to marry again flowerforyou But first I need a DATE! sad

Jules0565's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:39 AM

I have a couple of friends who have been with their girlfriends almost 20 years & they both say, why screw it up by getting married



See that's what I don't get.. 20 years and still has the title of "GF"... after 20 years..is that how he would introduce her to someone? She should be priviledged enough to have the title of "Wife". JMO ::shrug:: :wink:

Jules0565's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:40 AM


WOW.. I can't believe half of what I'm reading... Most are here looking for more than a friendship, true? But yet, most answers are that they never want to remarry.. what's the point then? Isn't that something that we work toward when starting a new relationship.. having it build until the final outcome of marriage? Hmm..perhaps I'm wrong..but that's what I build/work/hope for, I want the commitment (and yes I know you can have that without the PAPER) but if you are committed to that one person, why NOT have that paper?? If things change after marriage, it's due to both parties along that to happen.. like the other thread's have posted, men no longer do the sweet things they've done while courting.. women no longer say the nice things to men (examples) A relationship is work and it's all about what you put into it. Men believe sex changes after marriage, so why bother? Sorry, if that happens then something else actually changed to have that happen, ever think of that? I don't know.. Perhaps my fairytale really doesn't exist that I'm looking for.. because I want to remarry one day..then he's stuck with me forever, I'm not divorcing again!! laugh laugh laugh


I'm with you. I would like to marry again flowerforyou But first I need a DATE! sad



You and me BOTH sistah! drinker drinker But now I'm not really sure I'll find that on this site.. I won't give up yet though.flowerforyou

bastet126's photo
Fri 07/04/08 10:41 AM

WOW.. I can't believe half of what I'm reading... Most are here looking for more than a friendship, true? But yet, most answers are that they never want to remarry.. what's the point then? Isn't that something that we work toward when starting a new relationship.. having it build until the final outcome of marriage? Hmm..perhaps I'm wrong..but that's what I build/work/hope for, I want the commitment (and yes I know you can have that without the PAPER) but if you are committed to that one person, why NOT have that paper?? If things change after marriage, it's due to both parties along that to happen.. like the other thread's have posted, men no longer do the sweet things they've done while courting.. women no longer say the nice things to men (examples) A relationship is work and it's all about what you put into it. Men believe sex changes after marriage, so why bother? Sorry, if that happens then something else actually changed to have that happen, ever think of that? I don't know.. Perhaps my fairytale really doesn't exist that I'm looking for.. because I want to remarry one day..then he's stuck with me forever, I'm not divorcing again!! laugh laugh laugh


i see this alot on here. IMO some people use the 'i'll never marry again' as a crutch to make searching and single seem like a safe place to be. i would bet if people found true love, their story might change. i admit, i'm one to say i like single, but it's not because my marriage failed. i just find peace on my own and it is where i am at the moment. but, i would never say never. JMHO flowerforyou

ladyliz1417's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:04 AM
How will I ever get married if noone even wants to date me??????sad

baroosie's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:06 AM

How will I ever get married if noone even wants to date me??????sad
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Fade2Black's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:10 AM
Small (family only) Ceremony @ The Broadmoor (5* hotel) ..

Europe for the Honeymoon :banana:

boneyjoe's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:11 AM
lady,,,,,,,,,if you were closer,,,,,,i would luv to date ya,,,,what guy in there rite mind wouldn't?????

ndragon's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:13 AM
For me...court house then just an all out gathering for the reception. A big dance and chat thing. NO big expensive thing. Honeymoon in the mountains.

plk1966's photo
Fri 07/04/08 01:30 PM


I was married once, never had a honeymoon. The next time IF I ever marry again I would like to honeymoon in Ireland.


Ireland's good....Heavy drinking recommended
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I am Irish so that drinking is always on the agenda!drinks drinks drinks

creationsfire's photo
Fri 07/04/08 01:48 PM
Edited by creationsfire on Fri 07/04/08 01:58 PM
1st one I was 16 and 8 mo prego with our 1st child in Vegas. No honeymoon, no white dress, no bridal shower no baby shower and no family except my dad with the shot gun. 2nd and 3rd kids no nothing. Horrible divorce and cruel psycotic megalomaniac......3 years of craplloa in court. Credit to ****, he never paid a dime. mad rant grumble :angry: sick :cry: mad frustrated


2nd, Carson City, had to walk to the courthouse and were the only ones with a tux and white dress and we were last on the list. Our marriage photo was a polaroid.No honeymoon, no bridal shower no nothing. No honeymoon, no bridal shower one hell of a divorce I had to pay for and my credit to ****. He never paid a dime I was that desperate to get away. scared

3rd just vows, no legal marriage and the best move Ive made in a long time. I left and there was no hassle. Except he had ruined my and my sons credit and never paid a dime for the promises to pay for the things we bought as a "family" I had just got my credit back on track until he did that. Sighh, another 10 yrs for things to drop off.frustrated

NOW why would I want to attach myself emotionally and finacially to someone by legal bond if I don't have to? Seems silly and I can't say never, but for the time being, no way.

Vows are just as good as any wedding, and I swear to God, I will have the works this time and I want to go to the Galopagos Islands, I want to swim with whales and hear thier somgs under water, I want to skydive at least once and not strapped to someone's back, I want what every little girl dreams of. But I know that is silly. No one is going to spoil me like that, so I guess I'm ass out.

Alone is good as long as you have someone to spend time with on a regular basis, and if it turns into more then awsome.....but I want the works and refuse to settle on a guy that has the money but not the charm. Someone I can connect with. HA! I'm done, hahaha

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