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do you think it is better to call someone out if you think they are playing games? or would you rather wait to call them on it till you have proof? just curious 
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If they are a game player and you already know it by feeling it, by the time you were to have found proof, they may have gotten the better of you and you may have forgotten to pursue the proof if they are good at the game.
Wow, that sounds loopy, but I know what I mean!!  Research sociopaths sometime for a real eye-opener!!
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Wait till you have proof. If you accuse without proof, they just deny it and leave you feeling like a fool.
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What kind of games?
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What kind of games? relationship type things...i would explain it if i could. |
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If they are a game player and you already know it by feeling it, by the time you were to have found proof, they may have gotten the better of you and you may have forgotten to pursue the proof if they are good at the game. Wow, that sounds loopy, but I know what I mean!! Research sociopaths sometime for a real eye-opener!!
morning suzette
that wasnt loopy it made perfect sense. i will add sociopaths to my reading list...sounds interesting thanx |
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Wait till you have proof. If you accuse without proof, they just deny it and leave you feeling like a fool.
You're still batting 1.000 Kimmy. |
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You have a right to your feelings. If you feel they are playing games then confront them. It might be a misunderstanding or they might being playing you. Relationships are built on good communication.
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what does "call out" mean??
proof of games? |
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I spent 5 1/2 years waiting for "proof" and all I got was the 3 kids. (Personally...I got the better end of the deal..)
In my experience...waiting on insurmountable proof just isn't worth it. You'll make yourself sick trying to "set traps" to catch the person, or talking to any/all mutual friends to try to catch the person in lies, or waiting until they say they're going somewhere you know they arn't so that you can show up and then prove they weren't there. It's just too much stress, energy and time for little bits and pieces of "proof". Your best bet: Sit down and talk to them about it. Watch how they react, if you still get that "sick" feeling in your gut...it's not worth investing a lot more time into the relationship. (jmo) You can't be in a healthy relationship if you're constantly waiting for your partner to slip up, can't trust what they say or them, and go through every day with that god awful feeling knawing away at your belly. It's not fair to you. To the other person. Or to anyone else directly affected by the relationship. |
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I spent 5 1/2 years waiting for "proof" and all I got was the 3 kids. (Personally...I got the better end of the deal..) In my experience...waiting on insurmountable proof just isn't worth it. You'll make yourself sick trying to "set traps" to catch the person, or talking to any/all mutual friends to try to catch the person in lies, or waiting until they say they're going somewhere you know they arn't so that you can show up and then prove they weren't there. It's just too much stress, energy and time for little bits and pieces of "proof". Your best bet: Sit down and talk to them about it. Watch how they react, if you still get that "sick" feeling in your gut...it's not worth investing a lot more time into the relationship. (jmo) You can't be in a healthy relationship if you're constantly waiting for your partner to slip up, can't trust what they say or them, and go through every day with that god awful feeling knawing away at your belly. It's not fair to you. To the other person. Or to anyone else directly affected by the relationship. congrats on getting the better deal out of your situation. kids are wonderful. thank you for your advice it makes alot of sense |
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