I was married for 25 yrs. Didn't date much before marriage. Separated since last Sept. & divorced in Jan. 2008. I dated one guy from Sept thru Jan, I thought exclusively, then I found out he was seeing several other other.. so I broke up with him and began dating others. In February 2008 I met a man thru an online dating site..he was kinda of shy abt meeting .. finally abt 3 weeks after we chatted online we met and had an instant connection & we live in the same subdivision of all things.
I saw alot of him & then in late April I started seeing him almost every other day. I adore him, but because of this other guy that cheated on me .. I often checked his dating profile & abt. 2 weeks ago, he added a new pic to his profile. Instead of thinking rationally, I went over to his house to get a few things I had there & he said "Did I forget to call you?", I said "No, I know you added new pics to your profile!". He said he was gonna cancel that & I said yeah but you added new pics. I said I had been hurt before & I didn't want to get hurt again & I left. He won't answer my calls, e-mails or text messages. I mailed him an apology card last week and then I saw him where he works (a grocery store) and he told me HI. I want to approach him about seeing me again, but I don't know what to say. I weep everyday for my stupidity!!! He is a darling man & has so many good qualities. What should I do? I need help..I've tried meeting other guys, but I just compare them to him and they don't measure up at all.

invite him over for a romantic dinner...if he dont come...then forget him

I think you've done all you can do. You reacted how you did and you can't go back in time. You've apologized - now it's up to him - if he wants you back, he'll acknowledge your attempts to reach out. If not, then he wasn't the one honey.

Good luck

maybe you over-reacted, but for someone supposedly intending to cancel, I'd have wondered, too, about the additional picture biz. Don't over apologize. Just makes you look butty and stalker-ish. Invite him for a coffee date, and if he can't even try to go back to friendship, you will have to cope and let it go, live and learn.

Men tend to equate overreaction/needy behavior to being psycho. Take care of your self, apologize politely, and let it be. If he is still interested, he will let you know.

He'll call you when he wants some pu kang kang!!

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Hi, Thanks to all that responded to my question. I just wanted to say that my BF contacted me on Thursday, 2 weeks and 3 days after we had our disagreement. He said that he'd been missing me but he'd needed some time to think. He invited me over and we visited for almost 2 hours. We both apologized and I hoping that things will be OK. Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!

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