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Topic: Could use some advice
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Tue 07/01/08 12:33 AM
Hmmmm. Pretty smooth


just wait for her to ask you if you want anything else with your order. quietly say that you wouldn't mind if she joined you for lunch sometime!

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 07/01/08 12:37 AM
flowerforyou Do you ever feel like a living pregnancy test ?flowerforyou

:tongue: Women pee on you daily?:tongue:

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Tue 07/01/08 12:42 AM

Hmmmm. Pretty smooth


just wait for her to ask you if you want anything else with your order. quietly say that you wouldn't mind if she joined you for lunch sometime!



I used to know a waitress who would drop the menu and stand on it. That's all they got though. :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

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Tue 07/01/08 12:47 AM
If you ask her out to dinner, just don't take her to a Subway, Cousins, Quiznos, etc...

And if you try and show her your "footlong" at the end of the night, you better hope she's wearing gloves...

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Tue 07/01/08 12:48 AM
lol

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Tue 07/01/08 12:51 AM
does she have all her teeth

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Tue 07/01/08 01:03 AM

does she have all her teeth


:laughing:

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Tue 07/01/08 03:43 PM
Edited by Drivinmenutz on Tue 07/01/08 03:46 PM

OK, need some help here. Theres this girl at the local sub way that intrestead in, Im in there perty much every day but ive only had a limited conversation and its hard picking up on any body language simply becasue, well shes at work she has to be polite and smile and all that.

Question is anyone ever been in that sort of situation and what did you end up doing? Ill probably end up biting the bullet on this one but I was curison if anyone had some helpful advice on this one..

P.S. im in there everyday for lunch, not stalking her lol


Ok, the initial approach is actually kinda tricky. You don't want to make a point of flirting with her every time you see her. Have a couple short, quick conversations, then back off for a day or two. Then start another. This approach can build anticipation by leaving her wondering if you are interested. It also show her that you are obsessive or anything like that. Women need to feel like you aren't naming your future kids, based on the one or two times she decides to flirt with you.

Find out what she likes doing in your small talks. Then make some plans with some friends. For instance: If she likes playing pool, make plans with some friends to play pool later on in the week. Then on the day of, or the day before, tell her "hey, my friends and i are all meeting up at _____, it should be a good time, you should come with us...". This is very non-threatening since it doesn't sound like you are asking her out on a date. Instead just to "hang out". There is no pressure implied. Only invite a few friends in case she isn't social. There is SUPPOSED to be something about telling her she should come instead of asking. Once again, i think it's more the informality than anything.

When you actually meet up with her outside of work, don't quite treat it like a date. Treat is like you are just trying to get to know her outside of work. (This gives you a chance to read her nonverbally outside her workplace.) Be careful about giving compliments. One or two here and there about specific things like, manicured nails, or hair highlights, but nothing corny like "wow...your eyes are beautiful..." since compliments like these tend to put up red flags. Save the romance until later. Focus more on humor and confidence in the beginning. They say the acting like you are cocky, but getting people to laugh about it is a good thing. "Cocky-funny".

That's all the advice i have for now. Good luck!!!

Misc. Info :

Humans communicate 70% nonverbally in regards to normal everyday things.

Sexually humans, men and women, are closer to 90% nonverbal. (Women are more like 95%)

Just something to think about.

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Tue 07/01/08 03:53 PM
One more thing, in asking her to come meet you, she is coming to you. Kinda brings her outside of her normal environment, and the fact that she is meeting your friends gives you A. social status, and B. she will natually cling to you a bit more for comfort. This is because you will most likely be the only person she knows. Also, this is important... Take your time and enjoy each and every step of the courtship process. Don't be in a hurry to move to the next step. Another big mistake guys make is trying too hard to impress their potential mate. DON'T! Be your natural self whether or not you think she will approve.

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