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I have posted on here before about a budding relationship. I am educated and with a profession, and I met a cowboy. He spits, passes gas, burps, vomits, drinks, has no car and lives with a friend.. he is also very sexy and strong and a national bullriding champion. He has broken his skull, neck, back, nose (3X), arms, hips, both legs, wrists, jaw and feet. Yet his body is the best I have ever seen. He can not carry on an intellectual conversation with me. All he ever expresses is how much he loves me. I have found out he has lied to me a dozen times about important things, things that matter ie children and incarceration. He weeps in my arms telling me I am his salvation and the best thing that has ever happened to him. He gives me orgasms, but not via intercourse, because he does not stay hard. He drinks. He made me love him, and I thought I could save him. 30 minutes ago, I took him to meet a woman who was gonna let us maybe rent out her house. We met over dinner. He dropped food down his shirt, he told vulgar jokes and then cackled at his non funny punchlines. Inspite of all that I think I love him. He has nothing to offer me. I provide everything. After the dinner I broke up with him. I told him I was embarrassed and horrified and I let him know how imperfect he is. I feel like a gosh dam witch. 
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Sounds like the perfect match for an educated person. Kind of a Yin and Yang thing. Ya dig? Try giving him more oral sex too! YOu prove my point exactly. I have dated attorneys an architect, and a judge and this man has more heart in his stupid pinky then they ever did. |
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Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change.
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VERY good point sir!
Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change. |
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VERY good point sir! Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change. Thank you. People have to change because they want to, it's the only way it will stick. He may say he'll change, but in a months time, it'll be deja vu all over again. |
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Sounds like the perfect match for an educated person. Kind of a Yin and Yang thing. Ya dig? Try giving him more oral sex too! YOu prove my point exactly. I have dated attorneys an architect, and a judge and this man has more heart in his stupid pinky then they ever did. I just knew that you would get the hang of this. |
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Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change. I see that I will hate him for all these things after time. But I also know that I am the only one who MAYBE could tolerate. I am not willing to gamble. I cut him off like a heartless succubus. I did it for selfish reasons, I did it so that I would be ok. I have to hope he will be okay but the phone keeps ringing and I keep weeping and my discipline and heart can only take so much. I need reason over here...not compassion. I need stoic stance...not love. |
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YOU being ok is what matters.
Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change. I see that I will hate him for all these things after time. But I also know that I am the only one who MAYBE could tolerate. I am not willing to gamble. I cut him off like a heartless succubus. I did it for selfish reasons, I did it so that I would be ok. I have to hope he will be okay but the phone keeps ringing and I keep weeping and my discipline and heart can only take so much. I need reason over here...not compassion. I need stoic stance...not love. |
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Are you willing to put up with his crap? for a lifetime?? Because if you go back, you've seen your future - because he ain't gonna change. I see that I will hate him for all these things after time. But I also know that I am the only one who MAYBE could tolerate. I am not willing to gamble. I cut him off like a heartless succubus. I did it for selfish reasons, I did it so that I would be ok. I have to hope he will be okay but the phone keeps ringing and I keep weeping and my discipline and heart can only take so much. I need reason over here...not compassion. I need stoic stance...not love. Number 1 - If you don't take care of you - then who is?? He can't take care of himself, let alone you. Do not let self-preservation become confused with selfishness.
It's not your responsibility to tolerate him if no one else does. And if no one else can tolerate him - well, "here's your sign"..... |
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thanks people.
I am gonna go it alone from here. Not answer the phone (but he left his ferrier equipment in my jeep), and I am going to lay down and never love again (and drop off his horse shodding gear at a neutral location later). I love not again for a very very very long time. (you should have seen him him breaking horses) |
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Wasn't this a movie on the lifetime channel? Had another depressing ending that made no sense?
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 Good Girl smartest thing I've heard today! The breaking up part!
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hun, i think you can do better than that
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well, other than the fact the guy seems to have no manners, and about as much pride, does he mistreat you in any way? And think thru the entire abuse spectrum, not just physically, before you answer that question.
If the answer is NO, then all you hafta figure out is if you want to deal with his behaviour over the long term. I also understand the effects of brain injury first hand as I used to work with people that were injured. You will never be able to "fix" him, cuz it's not necessarily a case of him just being an "ignorant slob". And that may just be the question you need to ask yourself. Do you want to spend part of your life with someone that, regardeless of how kind and sweet and loving they are, has some bad social and intellectual shortcomings that you and no amount of therapy or education can "fix"? I know a lot of women go into a relationship with the thought that, "Oh well, he has a few shortcomings but I can fix those". I can understand how it would be a lot harder to do, knowing he can't be "fixed". 
All I can say is, no matter what you decide, stay strong. And good luck, no matter what you do 
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haha I had to laugh at this one!!! Im thinking its the most bogus story Ive read in a looooooong time!!!
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Hmmm what took you so long? Sound like he seriously needs to grow up.. you can and will do sooooo much better!!
I agree with this lady
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((gypsy)) people on here don't lie haha I had to laugh at this one!!! Im thinking its the most bogus story Ive read in a looooooong time!!!
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He can not cope with intellectual emotions. And right now I STILL WANT TO FIX HIM. First, you need a few rolls of duct tape. |
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I need reason over here...not compassion. I need stoic stance...not love. Oh good. It didn't really sound like love anyway. Sorry, left my humor in the christianity thread. This one's a serious one. Hopefully, if there's a pattern you can see, you wont have to fall in that rut again. I'm really starting to run out of popcorn.
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haha I had to laugh at this one!!! Im thinking its the most bogus story Ive read in a looooooong time!!!
I actually think she was being serious. It reminds me of when a friend told me what he was attracted to. I just blasted dueling banjos and said, "Please continue, I'll narrate". We're a sick lot.
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