i had an agreement with my now x husband if he wanted to cheat all he had to do was tell me, who and when and i'd deal with it. if he lied and just did it there would be hell to pay. he never cheated or wanted to, we divorced for other reasons

forgive yes, forget no. would never get back together with someone who cheated.

My second wife cheated on me only 8 months AFTER I literally saved her life.
When we bought our 1st house about 4 years after we met, we made a pact that if one of us was interested enough in someone else to fool around, we would give the other one the dignity of letting them know before it went that far. She didn't give me that dignity.
For YEARS I drove a handi-transit van for the city. One of my regualrs went to the strip bar twice a week.
I was so serious about my marriage and loved my wife so much, I wouldn't even go in and get him when I had to pick him up. I made the bouncer get him lol.
I had lots of opportunities but never took any of them up. I have never cheated on any of my wives or g/f's.
About a year after she left me for some loser, she came to the house crying asking me to take her back. It was hard to do, but I just shook my head slowly, and gently closed to the door on her.
The betrayal was hard enough to deal with, never mind it happened shortly after I saved her life. Not to mention the pact was HER idea.
When she cheated on me, I was real sick and was in the hospital in a coma for 3 days. Her "reason" for it was she was so distraught over it that she needed someone to comfort her.
I can forgive the cheating, but her timing made it 10 times worse and impossible to forgive.

I have never stayed with anyone that ever cheated on me. I could never forget. Forgive? It takes me a very long time to forgive betrayal. Very long.

I could forgive but the relationship would be over. I have never cheated and will never cheat. If I am so unhappy that I would be tempted it is time for me to move on anyway....

That's how me and my partner feel, too.

Just don't think all women are cheaters

nope.

yes

I forgave......So I could move on.

it is the only way you can ......