Ok, I got this idea while in another thread here. When I meet someone for the first time I want to get to know them. There are two ways which I think are most effective. The first would be, when talking to them online, do just that, talk. The second is, once you're out with one another in person, do something together. Hike, swim, birdwatch, people watch or whatever. Sitting across one another at a table asking and answering questions occasionally punctuated with awkward silence probably will not leave a good impression on either of you.

I hate interviews and largely avoid women who interview me when I try to talk to them. You know like, "what do you do for fun? What kind of food do you like?" etc. In my opinion, thats not a good way to get to know anyone at all. Some people are great people but they suck at interviews. Other people are horrible people but are good bull****ters. Ever hear someone say how they thought they knew a person then their true colors came out? Those people give the right answers in the interview, thats all.

What do you all think? Besides me being crazy what do you think? lol

I agree 100%

Before I answer...what do you earn?

right on

most of the time, interviewing your date facilitates a conversation.

But, it also gives them a chance to lie through their teeth if they're the type.

I agree, being out and about with a person will show you who they are more than eating and just answering stock questions. Good point sir, I'll have to remember that.......if I ever get a date!

if they are not spontaneous with their answers, that should be a given.

True...like my question was totally ignored...

Not necessarily. I'm not spontaneous with my answers simply because I find the situation uncomfortable, not because I'm trying to pull the wool over her eyes. I could be very spontaneous if either 1. I already have them rehearsed or, 2. I just say the first thing that comes to my mind paying little regard to how accurate it is.

Here's my take:

Take your date to do something fun and childish - mini-golf, go-karting, laser tag, even bowling or horseback riding. You can get to his/her inner child easily that way and can see how he/she functions.

Plus, if you have no chemistry with him/her, who wouldn't at least have fun doing that kind of crap?

BOO ON DINNER/DRINKS/COFFEE!!! ...LAME!

yes!!!

I'm totally with you bro.' We should open a dating counseling office or something.

How many lies,broken promises,sweet nothings,fallacies can U possibly tell while snorkeling in the deep blue ocean.The Love boat is now boarding.All aboard!

Also on that same note, you also get to see certain personality traits that are carefully hidden on interviews like if they get frustrated easily, are they a good sport or are they willing to cheat. They may also be more prone to opening up a little more since the two of you will be more relaxed.

Which is why snorkeling wasn't one of the options mentioned.

If you could be more than 100% correct, I'd give you the extra points because you're right on all counts.

haha thanks man