I have moved for someone,will never move again for any one.

I have no ties here any longer. I can be any where I need to be.

hmmmmm..where are my animal crackers???

i could handle a mistake. im not rich, but i still have enough to make it work. i think it is to soon though. so im going to wait, which is what all my life seems to be. honestly, i dont really want to live there alone. so if it didnt work, i would move again. im a happy bipolar, and she is too. we dont flip out with hypomania or make really rash decisions. we get a long well. i cant really rely on my mother, but at least i have her around me where i am... so i would probably move back here if it didnt work. ill give it another 2 weeks and then consider.

thanks everyone.

I agree with this

The last chick I met on here had jealousy issues and went nuts

First, you sound like a real survivor, which means you'd probably be okay with it either way. Stress of dealing with someone else with bipolar however can have devistating effects if one can't distinguish the behavior the illness induces from the person's normal behavior. In your consideration, I personally suggest a lot of writing about it from pen to paper, not using the keyboard. Writing will effectively slow you down mentally, requiring you to write what matters. Although there may be ramblings in your writings, it will be easy to distinguish it from what's real. If you feel comfortable after all of that you may have a good shot. Especially with 2 bipolar types, you also need to make a concentrated effort to allow the other person whatever space she needs, especially when tension mounts. In an argument, it is very common for your illnesses to feed on each other, causing a situational hypomanic state in a heartbeat, and it is one point that I hope you take to heart.

Those of us with bipolar disorder often make bad decisions, or rush into things, or take risks that people without it normally wouldn't. If you have friends who do not have the disorder, I'd also suggest consulting with them, well before considering the opinions posted here, and most obviously, your parents know you real well too.


One point of encouragement also is that you mentioned hypomania, which suggests you know the difference between it and mania. If either of you go fully manic, the more stable of the 2 will need to also know when to ask for outside help. It is nearly impossible to reason with mania. There is also a book that Wife #2 and I read together, called, "Loving someone with Bipolar disorder". It is excellent reading.

If it feels right, do it.I am not able to comment on your "illness" so to speak, but will say this, wouldn't it be a bit of a strain both of you having the same condition living together? Then again, what do I know. One last question, how did you get a lady with only a blue box and hardly any information about who you are? Whatever you decide, I wish you the best for the future.

Bonny

If I didn't have a house (my mom lives with me)and a job I would move tomorrow

My business moves where I do, but the house doesn't. I moved to be closer to wife #1, and later moved to put wife #2 closer to the part of her family she felt yanked away from. She's now back where she started, and I'm pretty sure I'm past the culture shock of moving from the big city, 3,000,000+ to 13,000. I drove a friend to a place I visit occasionally, and so dislike the city that as soon as I was done, I was outa there. That pretty much qualifies me as finally being home.