But why does it have to be like that? What ever happened to honesty, truthfulness, and love being treated as a gift from God, not something guys say to get into a girls heart long enough to get into their pants... I'm sorry, but that's just wrong.

EXACTLY!! I'm sorry, but while in a relationship no other man will get my attention, online or otherwise. While in a relationship I have no need to speak to any other man... I will speak to my friends which I had before the relationship..but no need to meet "new friends" and talk to them in IM's..etc. The person I date can have my password and sign as me..they'll know I have absolutely NOTHING to hide. But the thing is.. I've never had a man offer up that same thing.. hmmm...

Good things never happen on line, only off.....

yes you are a trusting soul and you should have the respect of the same

I hope for all our sakes that is not true... I think it can be difficult to find "the one" online, but noe everything needs to be bad... Maybe sometimes it can work right...

I am too trusting sometimes, I give 100% trust up front instead of making men earn it.. I've quickly learned to change that for the future

needs to be yes earned.. but you know you are who you are ....I was always told nice guys finish last , so what I am who I am

Speaking as a nice guy, who cares if you finish last as long as you finish happy.

I prefer the nice guys

I feel for you and for all who have been here myself included. I have had this conversation many times in private but I will put it here. stop and think about this a minute before it causes a riot. I have heard this term thrown around for so long and it still makes me go "sigh". Meaningless flirtation. Now if it is meaningless why does everyone seem to want it? Personally I treasure things with value. And if someone is always busily meaninglessly flirting why should I think it means anything special when it is aimed at me? Furthermore if you are with someone why would you continue in this fashion? Is the person you are with not enough for you and you have to seek constant attention elsewhere? So they are your friends? you can't convey attention or feelings for your friends without flirting? This had been the downfall of many a promising relationship and stopped many more cold before they got started.


Just my midnite murmorings ...go back to what you were doing...

oh! I know I will...I have every confidence

bravo!!

a few times...

don't you go into EVERY relationship thinking you've found "the one"? I mean, if they're not "the one", then why bother? *Yes, they can be friends instead of friends AND lovers.*