When a girl I e-mailed doesn't respond, but does look at my profile?

she's stalking you

She is checking you out.

it means they aint see'n our real bueaty

yep

Then the long thought-out message was the way to go in this case. Excellent.

She's obviously made her decision, as it's been a week since then. Perhaps if I was less than 2000 miles from her, my mail would have elicited a response.

well, at least you tried.

Sounds like you just need a little confidence. Your description of yourself makes you sound like the man a LOT of women out there are looking for. More women find a sense of humor more important in a man than any other quality. That doesn't mean she expects you to be a stand-up comic. It means that if something is funny, you would smile or laugh, and you would see the humor in every day things, and comment on it.

Lots of women don't care for "tall, dark and handsome". Every woman has her own physical type
that she prefers. Some women like blonds, some brunettes, some shaved heads. Some like men
5' 8" and some like men who are 6' 5". And an awful lot of women don't even think of how much
money the man she is seeing makes. I know men won't believe it, but it's true.

More women would like to meet a nice man with a gentle touch than a man with a mercedes. One of women's most common complaints about sex is that they wish that men were more gentle. I know that I prefer a man who can touch me softly, rather than grab whatever part he has hold of.

It is men that feel that an enormous penis is an asset. Most women are perfectly happy with a man with an average-sized ****. A lot of women are even intimidated by extremely large penises, afraid that they will hurt, which they sometimes do.

Which leads us to how to talk to a woman - just like you would talk to anyone else. Women are people, you know. So when you meet a woman that you are attracted to, talk to her like you would talk to anyone else. Don't try pickup lines or comment on her looks first thing. There is no turnoff like a guy that walks up to you in the store and says "Hey, you're a hot-looking chick". It sounds as much like a cheap pickup line as it is.

After you have talked with a woman for a while, if the chemistry is right, invite her for coffee or ask for her phone number - but NEVER push. Not everyone is attracted to everyone. Just be yourself and allow the women you meet to be themselves, and you will find relationships.

Sometimes people are picky about who they want to talk with online. From my experience, I tend to respond more if a guy emails me telling me a little about himself, asking a couple of questions, and completely staying away from certain things such as:

"Email me back if you're interested."
(Insert any sexual comment here.)
(Insert any completely incomprehensible comment here.)

I usually check out a person's profile before I respond to anyone. If I have something in common with them, they don't seem like a jerk, I'm interested in talking with them on a friendship level, I'll respond.

Maybe others are more picky? Like lgo said, at least you tried.

very nicely said mirror,

Thanks all, for the encouraging thoughts.

This reminds me of a time last summer, when I walked into an office for an appointment. There was a girl there also waiting, but the room was otherwise empty. Finding a seat, I briefly toyed with the notion of approaching her, but noticed she was reading a book, so I dismissed the thought. Then she looked up at me from behind the book, like she had noticed the upbeat way in which I had walked into the room. So I talked to her, and I sensed immediate interest.

However, we only talked for 5 minutes before we both were called to our respective appointments. But I was surprised at the way I was received, it had been a long time since I had gotten that sort of positive response from any girl.

It encouraged me to keep trying, and years from now, I will remember that moment as the moment I came out of my shell.

Sadly, all talks with girls I liked since then have ended poorly...occasionally embarrassingly so. But I know I could never go back to the way I was. It's not who I am anymore.

Great point, Gemini...Looks like I learned something new yet again!

Here Here well put totally agree

i can't stand bullies either, if you have trouble with some on here, i can usually help, so if you need a friend, i'm here. and have a good time on here as well, i'm nerd, turned monster, your friendly neighborhood darkowl.

Yeah Owl knows some people who know some people who have people for those things.

cute.

I means either she isnt interested, or she is interested in someone else!!!