I posted something like this almost a year ago to the day. Today is the 1st anniversary of my younger brother's death. He was 1 year and 19 days younger than me. I still feel a lot of unresolved issues around it, we didn't talk much, we grew up and went our own way. Luckily, we did talk a few times before he died, so I am grateful for that and I had a few long talks with his best friend after he died and she told me things he said about me that made me feel better, but still I feel bad that I didn't stay in closer contact with him. Our family just wasn't close.

Sorry, this is getting long and drawn out. I just wanted to say that if you care about someone, make sure they know it, before you end up in my situation and they are gone before you can tell them.

I have had a horrible couple of days, spent yesterday and today in tears at work (luckily my office is basically a closet and I am alone so no one noticed), but hope that tomorrow will be better.

So, if you have friends or family you don't talk to much, maybe take a few minutes to make a call or send a note. I wish I had. Take care. Thanks for listening.

I lost both of my parents in a short amount of time... I am sorry for your loss.

Marie you have my sympathy.. I lost my brother almost six years ago as well so I know how you feel...

((((((marie)))))

Marie -- Great advice -- you never know what will happen tomorrow. You never want to end up thinking "I wish I would have said 'I love you' before it was too late...."

I remember the post you mentioned, I remember what you were going through at that point.

And I know it hasn't been an easy year since then -- but just remember, you have friends here. I'm glad to be one of them....!

I'm so sorry for your grief, and understand what you are saying. It's swell of you to share.

Thank you all for the wonderful support.

Lex, you are right about this past year (don't want to hit the rewind button on this last year), and I do appreciate you being my friend and so supportive.

I really appreciate my friends on here and I haven't talked to some of you, but thank you anyways. You are the best. Take care.

Marie, I am sorry for your loss. The anniversary of the loss is very hard, I understand. Hugs to you, dear.


I tend to think of the song "If Tomorrow Never Comes" by Garth Brooks. I try so hard to live by that principle. I don't always accomplish that every day, but something I strive for with my loved ones.

I hope you find peace and comfort.

Marie, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I totally understand what your going thru. I, myself, loss my brother and it's the worst thing anyone could go thru. It's coming up to the 5 yr anniversary and not a day goes by where I don't think of him. I agree when you said make sure the person knows you care or how you feel cuz you never know what will happen. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. God bless you!

Lookin - great words to live by, I love that song by Garth.

Just by coincidence, during my brother's memorial some of his friends decided the song "You find out who your friends are" by Tracy Lawrence, really described him to a T. He was always there when someone needed anything, money, car breakdown in the middle of the night, etc., he would go help them out. I have tried to live my life after this song too and help people as I can.

Thank you Mel for your kind words too.

Thanks to everyone who posted. You are the best.