Am I not correct when I say if someone falls for another,should not distance be dealt with after the bond is established,instead of used at the prebeginning of a possible LTR?
Is it not used to phase out men that may appear to be ugly,or repulsive in nature and isnt it easier to ditch them when both parties know they are far apart and it wont really matter,becuase there are MANY other fishes in this woerd world of ours?
Love should be first and foremost in someones mind first,jump in with both feet,and take the chance for true romance! isnt that what life is ALL about,taking gambles with ones fate,and either win,or lose,in any case it is not how one wins or loses,but how they play the game,TRUE???

not me...


if you're interested in me


First i set up an appointment

then i make you go through an obstacle course, nothing huge just a few jumps and army crawls, then i ask for a background check
and must have a drug test

i have the results faxed over to me

HA,HA,HA,keep dreamin sweets I dont prejump for anyone.

cant i just play dead instead?

I don't use excuses when it comes to "love" or dating etc..that's the guys department,They are the ones with 1001 reasons to not go through with anything.

I dream of you having a background check

I always tell my gals from here, use the distance to your advantage to really get to know the person! see what is there, not what you want to see!

I hate that when that happens.

Distance can be a hurdle. It can also be an advantage. Forces each party to learn to communicate better - be it online or the phone.

When we do meet we will not be meeting as strangers but as two people who truly know each other.

Why is distance NOT legitimate if neither one of you can or will move at some point in time? If one has children they can't normally just move to another state away from the child(rens) other parent.

Distance is an excuse used when they found someone else...at least I think so. In rare cases it is a legitimate reason, when kids are involved or work.

Distance is a huge deterent to "quickies"

Distance really slows things down. I mean...you have to wait until you actually meet the person in person...to really know. This can be frustrating to say the least.

Most women use it as a factor? I find the exact opposite to be true We tend to be the less practical, more emotionally driven.

Maybe women just use it as an excuse when having to say they just aren't interested in you. I wouldn't know, cuz I'm not looking, but even if I was I'd shoot straight up with someone.

Distance can be a legitimate reason for not pursuing a relationship. As you stated child(rens) can change the equation. Let's be honest, there are a number of dynamics that go into deciding to get to know another person - age, physical appearance, interest, job, et. al. If a person wants to use distance as a "yard stick" (sorry no pun intended) they have that right. I simply see it as one of the many hurdles people need to deal with to build a relationship. JMO.

Distance can be a big deterrant to both men and women. No quickies, no daily interraction on a physical in-person level. I like to ask up front if they are willing or interested in relocating, or would they be open to me relocating if that was in our future.

Sure, constant communication over the phone, email or IM's allow you to get a sense of a person's thought processes. But do you really know a person if you never spend time with them in person doing things and doing nothing? If you are not willing to go check it out in person then why waste anyone's time contacting someone that states on their profile that they want a relationship.

Take the "person with kids example." How do you know if you can agree with how they are raising their kids if you don't see it in action? How do they know if you have habits or preferences that may conflict with their child rearing beliefs if they don't see how you live your daily life? Only so much can come up in conversations to reveal details. One really never knows all this stuff unless you can spend lots of time with them in person. Long distance make it very difficult to have this practical information.

Now, if you say 'blow the practical and just give me emotional', I would have to agree that distance does not matter. You can have a great and strong connection with someone you never meet in person just by communicating over the info waves revealing your hopes, dreams, past, present, and daily funnies. It just feels good to share your life with someone even if it's virtual. You then will just have something more akin to a spiritual/soulful connection, which can be very addicting and intoxicating.

If and when you meet in person after all of this it could go two ways. One, you meet and it's like you are meeting your long lost friend. It feels good and safe. Or two, you meet and it's like "I'm not sure who this person is." The illusion is not the same as the one you have built up over the phone or net for the last several months/years. The bottom drops out of your feelings and you wonder why she/he does not call as often or you are the one not calling.

I have no problem with long distance relationships. The time apart allows me more time to work on my personal goals, but it can be trying when you want to feel the closeness of a certain LD Someone. So, for me I really prefer to meet sometime in person within the first two to 3 months of a LD thing. If either one of us do not like the outer looks enough (come on now - this happens to most people!) to remember the inner person presented to us those many months before, or, if we find we can't stand someone's annoying habit/s for a long term relationship, then choices will be made.

It's all a gamble whether you can see them in person often or hardly ever. I'm willing to take that risk so I cast a wide range over the net. Just hope I can still keep going the distance.

Well,check if you so desire? Whats holding you back?

I don't see distance as a problem getting there can be at times. But if it is someone you really want to meet you can overcome any problems that distance gives.

They say Love has no boundries.

So why put a chain on it you may miss out on the one for you.

Yes it is much easier to have them within driving distance and close so you can get to know them.

But then with the distance you tend to talk and find out more then when they are closer it seems.

Distance is only a as far as you want to make it.

If it is something you want bad enough you can make it happen.

you're easy!

Distance isn't an issue either for or with me. I have nothing tying me to Richmond but my employment and chances are good that no matter where I decided to go that I could just transfer. If not ~shrugs~ I have 14 years with this company and great referances so employment isn't an issue. My kids are grown and have thier own lives, so that isn't a factor either. Yes distance means you have to work a little harder at the relationship but I believe that can be overcome by making each other a priority and making time for each other be it online by phone or even by snail mail. You just have to let the other person know they are indeed important to you even if there are miles seperating you.