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Topic: Am I a b*tch?
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Fri 06/06/08 08:53 AM
Edited by cloudedsunshine on Fri 06/06/08 08:54 AM
Okay here is the situation.

I have been through a lot and found a guy that I am dating, problem is all of his friends have an issue with my age. He is 37 I am 23. So one of his friends says I am not mature enough, so I look her straight in the eye and say "Age is a number, maturity is a state of mind, and if you are too immature to see that maybe you have some growing up to do." Then she went, "What makes you think you are mature?" "My life/my experiences." Then she says "Care to elaborate" I say "No, thank you." Okay so she still has issues with me and now she calls me "the b*tch" Was I wrong in how I handled it?


PS my friends and family have a universal "Are you happy"
"yes"
"Then just take it slow"
"Okay"
Approach.

mcattygarnett's photo
Fri 06/06/08 08:55 AM
I happen to think that you handled it great, I dont know that I would have done so well...flowerforyou flowerforyou

cdaddy's photo
Fri 06/06/08 08:55 AM
should've punched her.

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Fri 06/06/08 08:56 AM
Maybe the "friend" wants your boyfriend?

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Fri 06/06/08 08:56 AM
My advice,dont listen to what others say,its not important as how you feel.Just ignore what anyone says,IT IS YOUR LIFE,not theres!:wink:

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Fri 06/06/08 08:56 AM

should've punched her.


I tend to be nonviolent, but I thought about it.

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Fri 06/06/08 08:57 AM

Maybe the "friend" wants your boyfriend?


She's married and thinks he should be too, just not to me, I am too young. She even fixed him up on a date with another 32 yearold girl, he said no thanks and she threw a fit.

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Fri 06/06/08 08:58 AM
Are you a B!tch? Heck no! I think you are completely justified in what you said and how you fell. Age is a number and numbers aren't definitive of a person.
Good job hunflowerforyou

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Fri 06/06/08 08:59 AM

Okay here is the situation.

I have been through a lot and found a guy that I am dating, problem is all of his friends have an issue with my age. He is 37 I am 23. So one of his friends says I am not mature enough, so I look her straight in the eye and say "Age is a number, maturity is a state of mind, and if you are too immature to see that maybe you have some growing up to do." Then she went, "What makes you think you are mature?" "My life/my experiences." Then she says "Care to elaborate" I say "No, thank you." Okay so she still has issues with me and now she calls me "the b*tch" Was I wrong in how I handled it?


PS my friends and family have a universal "Are you happy"
"yes"
"Then just take it slow"
"Okay"
Approach.



1 That lady sounds like one or two people we know on this site

2 You may find later where you want to be he has already been so there may be that issue

3 I was in a similar situation with a younger lady years ago it did not work because like I said I had done all the things she wanted to do but it was good while it lasted

4 If it feels ok go on with it

You will know when the time comes to move along or stay forever

good luck by the way send that lady to the taxidermist up the road.happy

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Fri 06/06/08 08:59 AM


Maybe the "friend" wants your boyfriend?


She's married and thinks he should be too, just not to me, I am too young. She even fixed him up on a date with another 32 yearold girl, he said no thanks and she threw a fit.


If she keeps it up she might just lose a friend. Just continue to be the adult. Games do get boring after they are played so much.

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Fri 06/06/08 09:00 AM
It is not her place or her business to say anything.

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Fri 06/06/08 09:01 AM
when i was 21 i dated a 39 year old EVERYONE including his and my parents both side of our friends hated it and we said to hell with them and we were happy until i walked in on him screwing his friend, that was guy, and they asked if i wanted to join... i walked out but the point of my story is if your happy your happy who cares what others think

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Fri 06/06/08 09:03 AM

should've punched her.



lmao no

ljcc1964's photo
Fri 06/06/08 09:03 AM
Never get into debates about anything.


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Fri 06/06/08 09:04 AM

when i was 21 i dated a 39 year old EVERYONE including his and my parents both side of our friends hated it and we said to hell with them and we were happy until i walked in on him screwing his friend, that was guy, and they asked if i wanted to join... i walked out but the point of my story is if your happy your happy who cares what others think


Sorry about how that ended.noway

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Fri 06/06/08 09:04 AM
Edited by missy51970 on Fri 06/06/08 09:44 AM

Okay here is the situation.

I have been through a lot and found a guy that I am dating, problem is all of his friends have an issue with my age. He is 37 I am 23. So one of his friends says I am not mature enough, so I look her straight in the eye and say "Age is a number, maturity is a state of mind, and if you are too immature to see that maybe you have some growing up to do." Then she went, "What makes you think you are mature?" "My life/my experiences." Then she says "Care to elaborate" I say "No, thank you." Okay so she still has issues with me and now she calls me "the b*tch" Was I wrong in how I handled it?


PS my friends and family have a universal "Are you happy"
"yes"
"Then just take it slow"
"Okay"
Approach.


Sweetie, you did just fine.. It really isnt his friends business.. As long as the 2 of you are happy.. I know youre family tells you that too.. But ya know its the truth.. Does it feel right? Let the ignorant words of others just roll right by. Dont let them ruin a good thing and make you insecure about your relationship...

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Fri 06/06/08 09:14 AM

Okay here is the situation.

I have been through a lot and found a guy that I am dating, problem is all of his friends have an issue with my age. He is 37 I am 23. So one of his friends says I am not mature enough, so I look her straight in the eye and say "Age is a number, maturity is a state of mind, and if you are too immature to see that maybe you have some growing up to do." Then she went, "What makes you think you are mature?" "My life/my experiences." Then she says "Care to elaborate" I say "No, thank you." Okay so she still has issues with me and now she calls me "the b*tch" Was I wrong in how I handled it?


PS my friends and family have a universal "Are you happy"
"yes"
"Then just take it slow"
"Okay"
Approach.


You handled the situation perfectly in my opinion and I am in total agreement with your family and friends. I wonder though, if those who know you and your situation best are in agreement with you, then why do you feel then need to ask the internet world who doesn't? Since I don't know you, and I really don't want to offend you, the act of going to the internet world for affirmation rather than accepting and respecting the opinion of those who love you would make me question your maturity. As I said, I do not mean offend you, I am just trying to point out something this other b!tch might be seeing that might lead her to believe you are immature.flowerforyou

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Fri 06/06/08 09:15 AM
You're both adults, so there's nothing wrong with your relationship. Anything that may happen is between you and him, not her.
You handled it just fine. I prob. would've punched her.laugh

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Fri 06/06/08 09:17 AM


Okay here is the situation.

I have been through a lot and found a guy that I am dating, problem is all of his friends have an issue with my age. He is 37 I am 23. So one of his friends says I am not mature enough, so I look her straight in the eye and say "Age is a number, maturity is a state of mind, and if you are too immature to see that maybe you have some growing up to do." Then she went, "What makes you think you are mature?" "My life/my experiences." Then she says "Care to elaborate" I say "No, thank you." Okay so she still has issues with me and now she calls me "the b*tch" Was I wrong in how I handled it?


PS my friends and family have a universal "Are you happy"
"yes"
"Then just take it slow"
"Okay"
Approach.


You handled the situation perfectly in my opinion and I am in total agreement with your family and friends. I wonder though, if those who know you and your situation best are in agreement with you, then why do you feel then need to ask the internet world who doesn't? Since I don't know you, and I really don't want to offend you, the act of going to the internet world for affirmation rather than accepting and respecting the opinion of those who love you would make me question your maturity. As I said, I do not mean offend you, I am just trying to point out something this other b!tch might be seeing that might lead her to believe you are immature.flowerforyou


My friends (all four of them are fine, but live elsewhere -florida) and my family are well neglectful and self absorbed. I mean, I love my mom and dad and baby sister, but their judgment is not the best.

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Fri 06/06/08 09:17 AM
not at all and I think you handled it in a mature way and I think she needs to stay the hell out of your business -


he should be proud to be with you

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