Okay, little about me. I was left by my biological father, beat by my adopted father, abused by my step-father, abused beaten and roughed up by my ex husband. So now I am dating a guy, and he says "your selfish". Hello, don't I deserve to be a little selfish. I pay my way, I pay my bill, I take care of myself, is it so wrong that one month of dating mght mean I don't want to meet your friends yet? Or go to someone's wedding who I have never met?


Who else has put themselves first and not regretted it.

Stay away from him.

which one are you???

Take it from someone who REALLY KNOWS..if he CARES ..he will understand..if not, then you have met someone wanting to control you yet again.

Have you explained all of this to him?

left

what was it he said you were being selfish about?

you misunderstood him - selfish to him meant, a strong, powerful, independent woman, who knows what she wants and what she wants to do

Geez,you have suffered. im going to the mall and punching the first male i run into.

Told him that right now I AM MY NUMBER ONE priority. I like him and all, but its like, he is calling me selfish, why?

Because I have finally made me a priority.

no need but thanks

I agree with Franshade

That I wasn't ready to meet all of his friends

{{{{faithful}}}}}

and Clouded - you're doing the right thing.

Thanks it's just why shouldn't you be a little "selfish" in a relationship, I guess I have been walked on enough that I want to be a priority and most of the time I do let him get his way with the things he wants, watch the hockey game, started to go to the gym (it's fun with him there), meet his parents(which was a little bit of an ambush but fine), why can't i just watch the race this weekend.

I think that he should put forth effort.

you're just looking out for number one.. nothing wrong with that

I truly dont think he has to be made aware of the 'whys' just yet, unless you are that forthright. I'm not especially after a month of dating (JMO).

Well.....at least he can voice his opinion, but hey, he puts himself first, you put yourself first.....no regrets right?

Look, sounds like he might be a little bit of a control freak to me. I mean, he is showing the signs of it already. Then again, he could be just wanting you to meet his friends cause you are becoming a part of his life.

That's what he said, after he said that he has fallen for me hard, and it scares him.