(I been talking to some of the gals on here 'bout this...plus observing alot of comments on this subject)

Is playing hard to get REALLY working for you!?!!??


Good looking, otherwise sound, intelligent guys often wonder why some other guy can move in and swipe a girl right out from under their nose...
the answer may be simply, because he did...while you just sat there and didn't.... while you spent time pondering whether or not to pounce...he just pounced!
Could be all in the timing and who takes the initiative!

Women are not mind-readers and alot of women still won't make first move.
So, maybe this will help some here...maybe not LOL

Not looking for any pouncers here...I've done been POUNCED!

I am in a relationship.She asked and I said yes.

whats the question???

ya im lost...but you did make a good point

would you eat my grits?

not after Peccy...yuck

Why not? He done told me you ate his!

it was only once damn it...and it wasn't that good

COOKIES!

should have added butter

maybe...and maybe some lysol!!!

My work isn't even work for me. I labeled photo #2 "Employee #1", for good reason.

* It never calls in sick on Monday or Friday.
* It never has a hangover or bad attitude.
* It does what I tell it too, when I tell it to, and how I tell it to.
* It's a better machinist than I am
* It doesn't take breaks, but sometimes breaks if I tell it to do something that causes it to.
* Once I know how long it really takes to make a part, it's always the same, except when its subordinate, a human, decides to screw around.

* Most importantly, it works so I can play.

what was the question again, yur puppies were distracting me.!!!

Not particularly into that playing-hard-to-get-dating-headgame-nonsense. If she tells me to buzz off after I try to chat her up, I'm gonna buzz off. I CAN take a hint, you know.

Aha! another lilangel observation!
men are simple
boobs are simply-bait HA!

<--- Does not know how to play hard to get

Maybe the guy is not playing hard to get. Maybe he thinks you are not interested. Personally, I don't believe in playing games. Just be honest and let each other know the score. This does not have to be so difficult. Maybe I am just too logical.

wow, ok can i be long winded again? Thanks...

After doing some research i've discovered that the simple "hard to get" approach doesn't really work the way people think. Men and women have traditional roles to play in courtship, and if you think about it, men are kinda like sperm, and women are kinda like eggs. (Read that metaphore in a book. I kinda thought it was interesting) The men pursue, the women select.

How does a man become attractive to a woman? The answer is more in status than anything. Become likeable. Make a point of interacting with people more often. Expose yourself to awkward situations (for practice) so you can be cooler under social pressure. Remember, most of what we find attractive is actually learned through culture, so yes, social status is very important.

More relevant to the topic, i suppose we should ask "How should a man pursue a woman?"

I guess when it comes to directly pursuing a woman the trick is to make yourself known, but be very sublte. This feeds into a person's natural tendency to second guess themselves. In doing this you can also build up anticipation. Anticipation is the KEY to winning a woman's infactuation. Drop a hint, see how she reacts. Make her think "maybe he's interested" instead of "wow, he wants me. Do i really want him?".

Ok, a better way to explain this is by using a metaphore. Imagine being very thirsty on a hot day. Someone is holding a medicine dropper filled with ice cold water. They give you a few drops at a time on your tongue. You're probably going to stick around because you're still thirsty and the water tastes so good right? Well, if your thirst was completely satisfied upon arrival what would be keeping you there?

Men that are successful sometimes seem to be playing hard to get because they aren't chasing after the woman. They gave her some subtle hints and are seeing how she reacts. But don't forget, you are a man. You are the one that's supposed to be stepping up and pursuing.

Also side note:

My advice on anticipation plays directly into one fo the most common mistakes guys make when dating. That is, moving too fast. This goes for both emotionally and physically. You have to make sure there is some progression in both areas, but TAKE YOUR TIME.

Mistake number two. Trying to win her approval.