An ex-boyfriend dumped me in February for several different reasons. Lately, I have been thinking about the relationship (missing it) and blame myself entirely for it ending. How do I forget about him and convince myself that the fault should be placed equally?

find someone else,

Never 2nd guess yourself over this problem. What happened happened for a reason. Move on.

ditto

trust me, at nineteen you will have a lot of men come and go in your life, don't dwell on just one, go back out there and have fun, lots of fun, have fun for me, have the fun i should be having

Cure is the same as the disease.

exactly.

Thank you

yur a sweetie, you will be swattin the men away.!!

Thank you. You are all wonderful

Just forget about the situation and move on with your life. The more you think about the situation, the more you'll dwell on it. And the more you dwell on it, the more you'll probably want to bring it up. And lo-and-behold... you've beaten that already-dead horse once again.

Listen to these guys ... they're 100% right! This is a cycle you don't want to repeat in your life ... trust me

I wouldn't say just forget about it, obviously there was something there you needed to learn, as there is with every breakup. It's not good to obsess on it, but reflecting on the issues is a good way to make sure you don't carry them into the next relationship.

It's perfectly normal to romanticize about a past relationship though... regardless of whose fault it is, it ended and it's time to move on.

Assess it. You had your part and he had his. I've already suggested this once to someone else, but it fits. Make a list of the qualities you expect out of your (next) man. Then, grade both him and you against that list, noting your part and his that didn't make the relationship work. In advance, if one of those items is, "He doesn't hit me", get help. That's a mandatory item and need not get special credit. This also isn't a list that needs to be published here, but if you do and some of the items are no brainers, don't be surprised if there's finger pointing and laughter.

THank you for all the advice. You guys are amazing:D.