anyways I am not here to bicker...honestly reading and contemplating everyones opinion...sometimes you get a better view of things from someone on the outside islooking in.

but, to try to define what is and what not is a relationship to someone else is rather opinionated.

Awww Joe...but this isn't a sex thang

I never even intimated to you or any one else that you were derogatory as I am not judgmental

You were judgmental yes but never derogatory and I only thought the gentleman above me was trying to caution me and that is where the word came from and not to you.


Secondly you are twisting my arm to part with an experience which may then convince you of my opinion and experience,

Mid December 2007 I happened to encounter (using the words correctly) a lady not on this site I am pleased to say that we formed so called by you "relationship" and we were constantly in conversation . The yahoo phone was always connected and my kids and hers also became very close friends.

We talked and conversed and Christmas gifts floated both ways. In March I went home to England and we were going to spend a week in some parts of the country that we had memories.

All was arranged. She drove to the airport and met me and we went to our hotel. I had insisted that we had two different beds in the room.

Before 24 hours was lapsed she had decided there was no chemistry so I said there is no point in us spending 8 days together if it is not going to work out and we parted me feeling very hurt. Financially this cost about $3000

You know the reason is we build something in our heads which is not the reality and when confronted by the real reality it is hard to accept. You think you have a "relationship" as defined in this concept but it is possible that you don't please don't tell me I am wrong that is judgemental. differ in opinion and with that I have no trouble .

But that is just your experience. And only one at that. Perhaps if you had seen each other on web cam and conversed more before meeting. This is what I mean about taking things slower. Taking the time to get to know more about each other before you meet in person and maybe not have to face something like that.

Ma'am you still don't get it do you? How sad

lets say just this and I am gonna end as obviously you wont accept you were judgmental and you will not respect someone else's opinion
I am not here to convince you That is not my concern .

I am only pointing out that you refuse to accept my point of view and that is not showing up in your favour.

Webcams we had, and you are not intimate enough for me to disclose all and certainly you weren't there.

I was not born yesterday and certainly have traveled a lot more than you can imagine.

I don't expect you to understand. One needs a much more broadminded viewpoint to understand. I wanted only to demonstrate that you should be big enough to respect other people's opinion when they differ from yours .Nothing you have said points to that direction .The forum is yours I respect that. Q.E.D

I respect your opinion. I just don't agrre wif it LOL

For better or worse, there's no manual.
Either two hands on the steering wheel will balance one another out, sometimee @ 75/sometimes @35/ sometimes in between, and everyone can work with it . . . or . . .
crash and burn!

Seriously, though . . . this is where TRUE communication, in the form of honest lips and open ears, come into play.

Can it work? sure, but it takes just that ... work. . .

I think case is solved...35MPH has agreed to pick up speed to about 45MPH...75-100MPH has agreed to slow down to whatever he has to to not lose 35MPH in the heated rush

compromise

The stuff RELATIONSHIPS are made of!