Often, I receive an email or a comment on a thread by a male asking why my partner and I have not deactivated our profiles on this and any other dating site we may be on if we are now a "successful" item, committed, monogamous, what have you.

There are some men and women who will not accept that maybe the person is just on here for the entertainment value of interacting on the forums or looking at the attractive photos.

I know many people will think, if not say outright, that one or both of the individuals in the pair are not truly "out of the pond" or "the sea" and just unable to be honest enough to inform their partner they are not monogamous.

Okay. So, taking out the options of just being here for the forums and eye-candy or being a spineless cheat, what are some other reasons a person in a successful relationship (including love, respect, and commitment) might have for not deactivating or updating all pertinent areas of their profile?

Congrats on finding that special someone, on JSH

Just ignore this guy. This site is fun and entertaining like you said. For what it's worth my girlfriend and i are both on here as well. The world's not black and white like most people want to believe it is. So sit back, have a drink, and join me in a chuckle, followed by a brief head shake at the ones who lack the maturity to understand such things.

I think that people leave that information so that others may see their personality and interests.

You don't have to deactivate.

I'm here for friends.

Read your profile, seems that with the links to "success" story something something, should be pretty explanatory.
so.....I haven't an answer LOL

I have a feeling the people that are sending you and your significant other messages are those that do not actively participate in the forums. I know that even if I were to enter into a committed relationship that I would still spend time on here, maybe not as much, because I have some great friends on here.

I am in a relationship myself and have had people say the same thing.I am here for friends and family.

most people don't actually read the profile me thinks

Well, I like the site, for one thing. I like a lot of the people here.

I'm a forum moderator, so that gives me a good excuse to be here, too!

But, more than that, I think there's something to be said for having a comfortable place to spend time with people you like.

My gf is on the site, too, so it's not like we're hiding anything from each other....

You don't have to be looking to score with someone in order to have a good time here....

I would read yours...but then you might look at me weird.

It's probably not a good idea to ask for advice from someone who has been married and divorced 5 times. And old cliche` probably also applies, freely receive, freely give. There are a lot of people here who could benefit from the experiences and opinions of someone in a successful relationship, or at minimum, a friendship. One could also take the approach that we're thousands of monkeys in one room, and when we see a monkey doing something right Darwinianism kicks in and we start copying that monkey. Sadly, few notice and keep repeating the same mistake the monkey before us made.

aww that's ok bro.....it would be our secret . besides i already read yours

Dout what people say THis is a dating site,true,but it's for finding friends too.If it wasn't I wouldn't be here Just have fun and be

Gf? Are you back together again?

Yeah, she moved up here on Monday! Took awhile but it's been totally worth the wait!

Yippee!!

Also, is the book at the stores?

Not yet, we're currently talking with a few of the more mainstream publishers....so right now, it's still just available on line....and it looks like the second one will be out around September....

Aren't there several people on here like that

Thanks for the responses, all!