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Topic: The "Good Friend"
michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14519	Tue 05/20/08 08:00 PM
Back to the topic. Be supportive,

rush2001 Joined Thu 04/17/08 Posts: 2577	Tue 05/20/08 08:01 PM
I keep my opinions to myself unless they are blatently obvious.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 05/20/08 08:03 PM
I've always supported my friends except for one time and that was when I knew the guy was messing around with his x. That really puts one in a bad place.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 05/20/08 08:04 PM
When you have a friend who is seemingly happy in his/her new relationship, do you support and encourage them, or do you regularly try to find "faults" with the relationship, perhaps out of jealousy, insecurity of losing a friend, or even control issues? What kind of friend are you? Congrats...now I can stop buying them both drinks...

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:05 PM
I've always supported my friends except for one time and that was when I knew the guy was messing around with his x. That really puts one in a bad place. Yeah, that's bad. So, did you tell her or let her find out on her own?

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 05/20/08 08:07 PM
The guy was one of my husband's close friends. He told the guy, that if he didn't stop it or come clean that he would tell.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:07 PM
Back to the topic. Be supportive, Perfect. Except, you ended with a comma. Does that mean there's a "but"?

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 05/20/08 08:07 PM
I've always supported my friends except for one time and that was when I knew the guy was messing around with his x. That really puts one in a bad place. Yeah, that's bad. So, did you tell her or let her find out on her own? Usually either way, they don't believe you or the situation...at least in my experience.

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14519	Tue 05/20/08 08:08 PM
typo.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:09 PM
Usually either way, they don't believe you or the situation...at least in my experience. Yep. People want to believe what they want to believe...or, more succinctly, it is what it is.

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Tue 05/20/08 08:11 PM
i have a friend of 20+ years who always finds faults...if i dated the pope, he wouldnt be good enough lmao...always wondered why she did that...who knows i am extremely happy for them and encourage a healthy relationship for them.

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Tue 05/20/08 08:12 PM
As long as it's healthy, why wouldn't one support them?

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:13 PM
i have a friend of 20+ years who always finds faults...if i dated the pope, he wouldnt be good enough lmao...always wondered why she did that...who knows i am extremely happy for them and encourage a healthy relationship for them. That kind of feedback is deafening. But, to give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she thinks nobody is good enough for you.

nonchalantwendy Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 13574	Tue 05/20/08 08:15 PM
A true friend wants them to be happy....... But if it is a bad person or relationship that is harmful.I would let them know cuz I care and can't watch my friend be hurt or used......

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Tue 05/20/08 08:17 PM
When you have a friend who is seemingly happy in his/her new relationship, do you support and encourage them, or do you regularly try to find "faults" with the relationship, perhaps out of jealousy, insecurity of losing a friend, or even control issues? What kind of friend are you? I support no matter what No need for YOU to post, I already know you do! Thank you. what an incredibly nice thing to say

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:19 PM
what an incredibly nice thing to say Just the truth, my friend. This is why I choose my friends wisely.

mommyof1 Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 25303	Tue 05/20/08 08:20 PM
When you have a friend who is seemingly happy in his/her new relationship, do you support and encourage them, or do you regularly try to find "faults" with the relationship, perhaps out of jealousy, insecurity of losing a friend, or even control issues? What kind of friend are you? Always support my friends, no matter what it is

guyguy1225 Joined Sat 09/15/07 Posts: 1936	Tue 05/20/08 08:20 PM
be supportive !!!

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 05/20/08 08:21 PM
I think, barring anything dangerous like physical abuse, or being unfaithful (and even that is a sticky one of how to handle it) that a friend would support. I don't want toxic people in my life.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Tue 05/20/08 08:44 PM
When you have a friend who is seemingly happy in his/her new relationship, do you support and encourage them, or do you regularly try to find "faults" with the relationship, perhaps out of jealousy, insecurity of losing a friend, or even control issues? What kind of friend are you? What's wrong Montana? Feeling treacly for the notion of unconditional love? ME TOO. Nah. It's all good. I just love you and am tired of the haters.