Why is it that the women I really like doesnt like me? and
The women that like me, I dont have much interest.?? I need a good answer. Is anyone out there feel the same as me?

I like you.....but you probably don't like me

Welcome to JSH.

its just sods law hun..but it will happen when it happens

set your standards lower...lower expectations will help you...and mutual match

Welcome to the jungle,
It gets worse here every day.

tks debbie and why dont youlike to cook LOL

yeh..been there, done that

never have im rubbish at it and it bores me lol..

I was afraid of that lower standards.

what shall we do??????

Because you are afraid of intimacy. You chose women who you know you can't have, and the ones you can have, don't interest you because you know it may lead to something.

Sorry, dime store psychologist here....

Gosh I think that a good answer Makes sense tks Honey if you like being called honey

and rubbish means what

lol english term for "bad at" hun

oh lol ok btw I love your accent

Some people just get attraction to those who show them little or no interest and yet run from those who show them interest. I like to call those "headcases".

Other times, men and women put on a completely different face when they meet someone they're attracted to. Sometimes people will be all "there" and "into" someone and trying to be overly nice or overly "cool" to them, when maybe their more true self would attract said person. The way you are with friends basically.

There is also the factor that maybe the people who can't seem to attract those they are attracted to are shooting for someone whom would never see them as attractive. Like the class nerd trying to hook up with the head cheerleader when she's only attracted to athletes.

Many times it's just a factor of mis-matches. Maybe she would be attracted to someone like you, but just not you in particular.

My suggestions:

1) Look at the kinds of women you want, then look at yourself. Are you really the kind of guy they would want? Same deal with women looking at men.

2) Make sure when you see the women you would like, that you're not imagining a relationship with them that would never exist. Like if you're into the wild nightclub girls, don't fathom the idea that she would be curled up on the couch with you on a Saturday night, like some homebody. Same deal with women. If he's more the laid back blue-collar homebody who loves sports and beer, don't imagine him as a classy gentleman who will go to fancy restaurants and the opera with you.

3) Make sure you're showing your real self and your best self. Don't be someone you're not hoping that will get you results. Just treat women like you treat your friends...without being vulgar or anything like that. Be more calm and don't worry yourself about trying to force sparks to happen.



mustangtom...I'd also tell you that you should write way more in your profile and maybe a few more images. Show women here you're more serious about meeting them as opposed to a quickly-made profile that will just think you're not too serious.

When you get the answer let me know. Cuz the same thing is happening to me.

thats cool lol..like the american one too lol

Thanks that was a really good answer? I have another question.