Okay it seems like I am asking for a lot of advise lately but then again my life has changed bunches. So here's my dilema, my ex wants to come to my little sister's high school graduation and party. I want to be selfish and tell him he cannot come, because everytime we talk he makes me cry. Seeing makes me cry. Our father and his brothers hate my ex. My little sister has said it's up to me if he comes. I understand he wants to be there, after all he worked on her with her speach impediment, gave her the don't do drugs, and respect your self talks (my parent's flaked, and he stepped up). I just don't know what I should say. I could let him be at the party for an hour while I go for a walk or something, but there are only 32 people graduating in her senior class so, I will have to see him if he goes to her graduation.

Tell him to beat it! He is an Ex for a reason, the only way to get rid of him is to cut off all contact. Trust me I dealt with the whole ex is a friend of my sisters, nothing but trouble. He has an alternative motive, its time to cut him lose for good!

I would ask your sister exactly what she wants. If she says again, whatever you want, then I would say let the ex go to the graduation but not the party.

My sister doesn't really like him, but says, it's up to me because she isn't going to tell the guy who bought her a car for her 16th birthday he can't be there.

It's just so confusing right now.

Let him go but do not interact with him. You know what he will do to you emotionally so ignore him completely. You can't go around life letting anyone influence you like you are doing with this guy. You can decided who you talk to though. So don't talk or look at him.

It's your sister's graduation. No one in your family likes him. He makes you miserable, to the point that if he comes, you'll leave.

Tell him no.

My thoughts exactly

It is your sister's graduation, her call.
If he means alot to her, for what he did, you need to bite your cheek for her. Grow up & remember it is her day, NOT YOURS.

Old I told her it was up to her. She doesn't want to make the call and keeps passing it off to me. It's not like I won't be civil, it's just that I'm confused.

Send him a Thank-You card for all the help he's been to her, but advise him that it's her day, and you'd rather not spoil it with any strife that may arise from your family to him,or yourself to him. If anyone has a cam, send him a tape when the day is over.

Just tell your EX that he is no longer included in any activities that involve you or your family.
It's your family and YOU don not need to leave the party for anyone, especially him. Unfortunately as for the graduation you won't be able to keep him from that as anyone can come to that. Just as long as he doesn't sit near you.
AND WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T LET HIM SEE YOU CRY, IT ONLY FEEDS HIS EGO.
I know I've been there and these kind of men love it when they know they can get to you. Just remember all those rotten things he did and get MAD.
Good luck and CONGRADULATIONS TO YOUR SISTER!

thank you all for your replies

I am going to tell him I don't want him there.