Anyone know what are the questions we should ask a person when meeting
them online and starting a phone relationship?
since this issue is causing so much problems, on this site
maybe with your advice we can get some help to make possible a healthy
relationship, that if it doesn't work, it didn't work but the person
wont be hurt and can move on and try again
there lots of ways we can find out if the person we are talking to
is the person we are looking for or is a good candidate for a healthy
relationship, but we need to list them here for all to read.....so your
input will be apresiated

Full Name
address
work for who?
married/attached/any other way it can be said
It has been my experience to not allow vague answers. If the answer is
vague, get the details or smell a RAT.
why past relationships haven't worked? again details/do they make sense
If there are certain times to NOT call, WHY?

very nice sage!!

Listen to them when they are talking about past relantionships are they
dishing the ex's in there lives if so they are not over them and have
not come to terms with there past. If they blame all the problems on the
other one watch out most times relantionships are not always due to one
and even if it is they must learn to deal with the past in order to move
on.

The one thing that just drives me up the wall is when they start asking
what you make a year hummm makes you wonder is it me they want or money
helllooooo. That will come out in time but not right off the bat.

If it is a long distance relantionship you might as well find out if
they are willing to make the move if it comes down to it unless you have
already made up your mind that you will cause someone will have to
sooner or later. If the relantionship grows.

Just talk and get to know each other and have fun talking to one
another.

Don't rush things. Have patience and fun conversation in talking to the
person you are speaking with. Same thing goes for anybody that you would
meet in person.

Just have a great time

let's see
silly says
1. call when you say you will
2.don't vanish without an explanation
3.be open,ears and all, you can learn alot by listening without
interrupting
4.talk about anything and everything (helps to get a feel for one
another)
5.and last but not least,take your time, rome was not built in one day
that's all for now,lol, just my thoughts
as far as long distance, hell I say anything is possible it is the year
2007 right?

I agree with sillygirl...give it time and don't be push it.

thank you NYC girl

great advice's

Complete honesty..if you can't do that then you might as well not bother
Listen...both parties..listening is essential in ANY relationship
Laugh...don't be serious all the time, it gets old and boring
Time..set aside time to talk, put the kids to bed, stop the chores, just
sit and talk
If you're busy say so and give them a time o call you back or tell them
you will call them back and do it!!

girly!!!!!

honesty is always key in my opinion.

key word Lion darling!!!

trust is everything and honesty is how trust is built and without trust
you cant have love :D i know cause im head over heals for a very special
woman :D

yes he is my lil bro is all in love and that makes me soo
happy!!

all of his friends are happy for him,, you goooooo!!!!
man!!! and yes darling trust is another key word, no wonder all is well
with you man!!! your using the right tools!!!
love ya!!lion, and you will be happy man!!!

Well not to sound redundant, like i said in my Advice to newbie thread,
before initiating a telephone conversation, you should know the persons
name and location. More important factors are verifying pictures are
real via asking for mor epix then posted or asking them to go on cam(not
naked) to allow you to view them.

Is the person gainfully employed ?
do they have childrn ? Want them ? Single,married , what they are
looking for.

I can go on and on for several pages so email if you would like

Arrest records, bisexual interest and exploration, drug and alcolhol
usage, how much value do they place on friends/family............those
are big ones with me.......

good one lilly! that is a most know!!

this happened to me so becareful
we hit it off real well for a long time then she said thats not her pic
she is fat just got out of drug rehab and that she was on probation she
also needed money for bounced checks we have been talking about a month
i said thats cool why the lies she said she wanted to see if i passed
the test then she came back and said that she lied about all that she
was on here for just attention