i share custody 50/50 with my x he called to inform me that our 6 year old daughter punched a boy in the gut after he wouldnt stop bugging her and a friend?

she apoligized after but my x and his best friend taugh her to fight last summer, she's kidney punched her dad and had him on his knees before.

should i be worried about this and talk to her about it ??

he talked to her but told me he couldnt stop laughing.

Yes,,,, I think you need to chat with her just so she will understand that you can't hit someone just cause you feel like they need it,,,, Sad but true,,,, I know alot of them need to be socked but can't do it anymore????

Yes, violence is never the answer. Her father should be teaching her that as well. I mean it is great to tech a child to stand up for themselves, but it should only be used as a defense. And that is something that her father should of taught her when teaching her to fight. And laughing at it is just telling her that it is OK, when it is not.

Just my opinion.

I am sure dad did teach ehr no to fight unless necessary. AS FAR AS THE LAUGHING GOES, i HAVE TO AGREE IT DOES NOT HELP. bUT SOMETIMES SOMETHIGN THAT IS WRONG DOE SMAKE YOU LAUYGH UNCONTROLLABLY, AND WHEN THAT HAPPENS YOU NEED TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROMT HE SITUATION UNTIL YOU CNA TALKWITH OUT LAUGHING.

aS FOR MOM i WOULD DEFINITELY SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH ER AGAIN AND REMIND HER FIGHTING IS ONLY FOR WHEN YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT GET AWAY .

yes yes...all well and good...defense only.....


but...i bet that boy leaves her alone from now on....??!!!

Does not excuse her punching him though, and should never be discussed in the manner that it does excuse it.

In third grade I flipped a boy over my back for harassing my friend Christina. He never bothered her again. To this day, I still don't know how I did it

Maybe your daughter was just taking care of business the same way. It's REALLY tough not to laugh when something's funny that kids do, but it confuses them when you do. Just let her know how much trouble mommy and daddy could get in if she does it again, and chances are she probably won't.

instead of stating how much trouble mommy or daddy could get in, place the blame where it belongs, with the child.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with letting your child know that he/she is wrong or providing consequences (other than a five minute time out for the fifteen year old) for misbehavior.
Do you think mother nature is going to give you a break cause you are not experienced in the woods if you walk into a wasps nest? No, she isnt. You are going to go home covered in welts.
Now, as far as this situation goes, the father was fine in teaching his daughter to defend herself/others, I am teaching my boys the same thing. I am sure he stated defense only, same as I do. And I know for a fac that I would have problems not laughing under these circumstances myself.
However, the luaghter has to happen away fromt eh child, and the child has to be disciplined for fighting without cause (being irritated or harrassed is not cause to pick a fight), so that they can learn when fighting is appropriate and when it isnt. They (the child) also has to learn to take responsibility for their own actions, which they wont learn if the parent gets in trouble instead of the child.

sorry but if the kid was hitting her and being an ass he got what he deserved.Bullying is still a big problem in school and while everyone is singing kumbaya their kids are getting their asses kicked or harrassed to breaking point.Its good she took care of business but remind her violence is a last resort but turn9ng the other cheek didn't even work for Jesus.

If he was hitting her I agree with you completley, inthat he got what he deserved. However it was stated that he was simply harrassing her. there is a considerable distance between harassing and fightin. Also, if you have to defend yourself, by all means do so at all costs. Same if you have to step in for a friend. HOWEVER, if you can walk out of it without fighting, then do so, and take the problem to the proper people. Its no different than if you and I were ina bar and arguing. If you were harrassing me and trying to pick a fight, and instead of walking away (or trying to) I simply knocked you on your arse (nevermind for the moment the gender issues, lol), or tried to do so, thenI woul dbe arrested just as fast as you would be for brawling in public. BUT if I tried to walk away first and go therough the proper authoriteis, then I would be fine and YOU would be talking to t he cops
We need to teach this to our youngsters fromt he beginning so they understand fighting is not the answer or the proper solution. It is to be avoided at all costs if at all possible (and yes I agree soemtimes it can not be avoided)

should you be worried, I truly dont think so unless she starts abusing/bullying other kids. She was defending herself and her friend. I'd talk to her and explain that there is no reason to hit someone, unless that person has hit her first. Offer her other ways to deal with it.