i have 3 wonderful kids thay love there family and there dad and i
divorced about 3 years ago and he just started his visits again
(2003-jan 2007 no visits) and he is taking our childred over to his
girlfriends house and i just found out that she is my sister in law. she
is the type you find in a truckstop working for her bill money and your
ex knows this EEEEEEEWWWWWWWW
anyway dose anyone know what i can do to stop him from having my babys
there???

I'm sorry angel.....there is nothing you can do. He is the father and
he has that right. Trust me...I've been there, done that. Unless she
harms the children or you catch her doing BAD things in front of them,
THEN you can step in and get Friend of the Court involved saying your
children are NOT in a safe environment. Until then, keep your eye out
because there is nothing you can do to stop him unless they are being
harmed or they are doing BAD things in front of them.... I'm sorry
angel....I really am. Take care

who has custody....any danger to the kids being there....i brought my
babys dad to court...documented everything...when he visted how may
times...i won... and have the right to say where my son can go and where
he cant...my babys dad dont even try to see his son...not since he was
six months...so everything worked out for me but cost me some
money....to make sure i did everthing right in court....just got to
think about is he hurting the kids...

ty fly and hornegurlshell but knowing her and how she raised her babys
is my concern she abuses them always screaming and cursing at them. and
my ex physcaly and mentaly abused me and mentaly abused the kids. i
personaly think if my daughter (7) is so out of place she ( sis-in-law)
has to have her niece stay the night there to make her feel
better.something is wrong

If you think something is really wrong, maybe you should have it
investigated by a detective. They do that kind of thing but, it will
cost you. They're sneaky about those things and they find out the truth
for you and let you know then they have the proof and you and the
detective can bust em. Talk to the police about it. Tell them what's
going on and ask them what can be done. I think that would be a wise
move instead of taking action by yourself and getting into trouble. Do
it the right way and things will GO your way.

when he picks up the kids he always has the police there giving me my
rights like i abused him i put a order of pro on him but it feels like
he scared of me .hiding behind a badge
my daughter did go to her room to get in bed with her daddie and she
was in there and my daughter was sniffeling and she gives her ,her kids
meds ... for a runny nose . she was crying it is gonna run

well mental abuse is not good either you can have a court appoint an ad
litem for the children if you file for an ex parte order of protection.
This person will talk to the children alone without you or dad there and
then if there's sufficient evidence he will then recommend to the court
that it set a court date and put in an temporary order to keep him away
including no phone calls.

this will not cost you nothing but may cost him if the court finds in
your favor.

kinda lost here? your ex.. is taking your kids to his g/f house which is
your sister in law..? so do you mean that your bothers wife is your
husband new g/f?

Angel,

If your children are old enough to make coherent statements in regards
to what has transpired at their father's house when they come home
gently question them, not to make them shut down but make it seem as if
they are sharing their adventure with daddy with you.

And no matter what you may hear don't let them see you getting upset,
just take the information and like Fedman said go to court and let them
appoint a law guardian or ad litem for you and proceed. Of course the
courts will determine if there is sufficient evidence to halt his
unsupervised visits.


I would like to wish you all the greatest luck in the world.

Psss.......

Whatever you do don't tip him off to your plans the element of surprise
in this situation would probably be this best plan.

Benzy

yeah never tip the other person off, and make sure if you think
something is going on, be sure that you don't sit back and let it
continue, if you do and the social services gets wind of any of it, then
you might find yourself in the same boat with children's services
pulling the children from the both of you.

i talked to a lawyer and i have a chance of changing visits to
bi-weekends with no over nights the lawyer said that it prob. is
mentaling abusing them but...........she was also with my brother in
law also about 2 years ago and it is so nasty eeewwww she is a naste ho
and she dose sell it to pay her bills

Prove that & give the info. to your attorney