They call it tough love
I pray the angels from above
Watch over him and show him the way
To a brighter future and better days
He's no longer the boy I raised
Alcohol took over and consumed his days
As a mother my heart just breaks
I asked him to leave,it's all I can take
Justin so many tears I have cried for you
Tough love is all I have left to do
I know in my heart the man you can be
Please open your eyes so you to can see
That life can be amazing each and everyday
Please Lord help him again to find his way...

i feel this poem as a mother especially single at that been there done that except now he pops pulls instead of smoking pot drink to become drunk not to feel good abuses his girlfriend with profanity stuff she asked me what she needs to do and i said tuff love it hurts but no choice we raise them their on our laps now their on our hearts being a mither will never end

Oh, dear. One of the top ten on the "Mother's Nightmares" list. I'm so sorry. May God bless you both and may be come up clean, sober and SAFE!! Amen!

Sometimes Pam they leave us no choice. All we can do is be there when they finally wake up to what they have done. It is a very hard thing to do but...for our own sanity at times we have no choice. My heart goes out to you.

(((Pam)))
I will continue to pray for your son.

Not too long ago (couple of years) I had
to make my one son move out.
I could not take it anymore. He was disrupting our lives and making everything misserable for
everyone in his family. His drinking got so bad
he was never sober. He abused everyone in his path. I prayed daily for him. There comes a time
when we have to let go- because we have done all
we can do for them. It is hard-but is nessesary.
I put up with this behavior for eight years.
The doctors,social workers, etc... asked me why
I did'nt let go before I did. I was so afraid he would die from this. (alcohol and mental illness).

I still fear- I will get that call someday. I AM
THERE for him and still speak to him. But he is not allowed to stay with me anymore. He is slowly drinking himself to death. We have done everything
we can. Have interveined a ton of times. He has to
be the one to want to quit. No one else can do it
for him- no matter how much we love them.

We have put him in rehab, jail, mental hospitals,
you name it. Still he goes right back to it- when he gets out. I was not living- when he was in my home. I was nervouse, did'nt sleep well, allways
on edge and fearful when he still lived with us.
I had to let go. It was the hardest thing I ever
did. I am more at ease in my life now. It is hard
watching them self destruct.

I know this is hard sweetie- but you have to do it. He will drag you down with him- if you don't
do something. Been there, done that, still doing
it, and still watching it... Mine does it because
he thinks it helps his mental illness. It only makes it worse though.

You ever need an ear... I am here!

Oh Pam sweetheart, my prayers go out to you today. I feel your pain as I have had problems trying to mend things with my daughters. It's hard, but they are finally facing adult life and it's not easy anymore. Send him down here to me...I have ways of bringing people like him to their senses. I work it everyday and I jump down these young kids who think they are invincible. I don't see them anymore after that. Love ya Pam, and my prayers go out to your guidance.

Alls we can do when these things happen is lay thes problems at Gods feet and pray the people we love will one day come to know the Lord and see the love we and God have for them...
You and your son are in my prays!!

As I have done today. Good words mt...

((( Pam ))))

I am a phone call away,,, Hugs my lovely

thank you all this is the hardest thing I have ever done...but apprciate all your thoughts and prayers...sending you all big hugs

I am sorry for your sorrow, and for his too! You both will be remembered in prayer.

pk, I am going through the same thing with my son. It is the hardest thing you will ever do. It makes you feel as though you are failing them as a parent but to help them kill themselves is not being a good parent either.

Great write