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Topic: Serious Question for Men =)
evilolive Joined Sun 05/27/07 Posts: 772	Sun 04/27/08 04:54 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails. wow

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 04:54 PM
what would that effect??? scars?? loose skin??? Well I do have a pretty big scar right now, but it will fade, and eventually, when I am done losing my weight I will have a tummy tuck to take care of the "extra" skin. Does that answer your question? well, I've never actually known anyone that got that...heard of it though....doesn't it hurt??? Well it did the first week out, but I am going on my 9th week now and have lost over 80 pounds and I feel wonderful! =)

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Sun 04/27/08 04:54 PM
Does this surgery have changed who you are? I mean if you are happy with what you've done More power to you , Many people have surgeries For different reasons ... All that matters is how YOU feel JMO

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 04/27/08 04:55 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails. Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.

briancarr Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 3310	Sun 04/27/08 04:55 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails. wow Even i would go there

LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Sun 04/27/08 04:56 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails. wow Seems as though this is the type of man not for her (or anyone over weight) to look his direction!!!

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 04/27/08 04:56 PM
what would that effect??? scars?? loose skin??? Well I do have a pretty big scar right now, but it will fade, and eventually, when I am done losing my weight I will have a tummy tuck to take care of the "extra" skin. Does that answer your question? well, I've never actually known anyone that got that...heard of it though....doesn't it hurt??? Well it did the first week out, but I am going on my 9th week now and have lost over 80 pounds and I feel wonderful! =) wow...thats awesome....congrats

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 04:58 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails. You know over weight people have many health issues. Some physical and some mental. Most over weight people do not CHOOSE to be that way. But I would not expect all to understand this. And I was asking for HONEST opinions here which you did give and I thank you for it. *note to self, DO NOT date this guy!

SPOILEDMILK Joined Sun 04/20/08 Posts: 47	Sun 04/27/08 04:58 PM
SWEET HEART , THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE SURGEY,IF IT MAKE A BETTER YOU THEN YOU OWE IT TO YOUR SELF TO TAKE A CHANCE .ANYONE WHO HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT ,TRUST ME ..THEIR OPINIONS AREN'T WORTH IT .YOU KNOW I ONCE HEARD SOMEONE SAY..DONT WASTE YOUR TIME BEING AFRAID WHAT OTHERS THINK... BECAUSE IF YOU ONLY KNEW THEY THE DONT SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING....WE TEND TO GET CAUGHT UP ON THE DOT......SMILE MORE, GET BACK TO LOVING YOUR SELF,AND I PROMISS YOUR'LL FINE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU NEED TOO....

Dave2722 Joined Mon 08/07/06 Posts: 644	Sun 04/27/08 04:58 PM
Well... if you did it for health reasons... what does it matter what some man thinks... you are doing it so you can be around longer for your new man. Well I did if for me, my health and my kids. And what new man, is there someone or something I don't know about? I am guessing the new man that you are seeking on this site, but then I may be wrong. At least you did it for you and your children, and that is what matters the most.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 04/27/08 04:59 PM
Why would having had surgery turn people off? Well some people have a problem with people who are large or even use to be large. Make sense? Well, that would make them shallow, wouldn't it? And who wants to be with a shallow person?

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 04:59 PM
Well... if you did it for health reasons... what does it matter what some man thinks... you are doing it so you can be around longer for your new man. Well I did if for me, my health and my kids. And what new man, is there someone or something I don't know about? I am guessing the new man that you are seeking on this site, but then I may be wrong. At least you did it for you and your children, and that is what matters the most. Ok I want a name cause if I am seeing someone, I need to know about it

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 05:00 PM
Why would having had surgery turn people off? Well some people have a problem with people who are large or even use to be large. Make sense? Well, that would make them shallow, wouldn't it? And who wants to be with a shallow person? Point taken!

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 05:01 PM
SWEET HEART , THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE SURGEY,IF IT MAKE A BETTER YOU THEN YOU OWE IT TO YOUR SELF TO TAKE A CHANCE .ANYONE WHO HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT ,TRUST ME ..THEIR OPINIONS AREN'T WORTH IT .YOU KNOW I ONCE HEARD SOMEONE SAY..DONT WASTE YOUR TIME BEING AFRAID WHAT OTHERS THINK... BECAUSE IF YOU ONLY KNEW THEY THE DONT SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING....WE TEND TO GET CAUGHT UP ON THE DOT......SMILE MORE, GET BACK TO LOVING YOUR SELF,AND I PROMISS YOUR'LL FINE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU NEED TOO.... Ok that was way too sweet. I need to date you...NOW! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 04/27/08 05:03 PM
Why would having had surgery turn people off? Well some people have a problem with people who are large or even use to be large. Make sense? Well, that would make them shallow, wouldn't it? And who wants to be with a shallow person? Point taken! I'm happy for you. You took the risk of surgery and I hope it all works out for you.

briancarr Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 3310	Sun 04/27/08 05:06 PM
Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion. Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =) No. I have a friend that did it. She was always a nice person, and a pretty woman. She still needs support, because she still see herself overweight. Now she has to understand that people stare now, because she is getting hotter every month. Good luck, and good health At a certain point with any type of problem, people are going to need help. Sometime things get so far out of hand for so long, that you have to take some kind of drastic measures. It happens with,drugs,food,gambling,food,or sex. The most important thing is to get help.

Bearwithme00 Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 32	Sun 04/27/08 05:06 PM
i say good for you, I work with a teacher that 4 years ago she was over 300 pounds and miserable....tried all the diets didn't work..She had the surgery ...She is very happy now

evilolive Joined Sun 05/27/07 Posts: 772	Sun 04/27/08 05:09 PM
i had this surgery 2 and a half years ago- best thing i ever did. i lost 150 lbs. best of luck to you, you made the right choice, who cares what any guy thinks about it.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Sun 04/27/08 05:11 PM
nope,but if ya go out to dinner do ya eat like a bird now?? yup pretty much lol. Bonus, I am a cheap date =) Cam is a cheap date too...have you guys met...I think there is love in the air....

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sun 04/27/08 05:12 PM
i had this surgery 2 and a half years ago- best thing i ever did. i lost 150 lbs. best of luck to you, you made the right choice, who cares what any guy thinks about it. And you look beautiful too!