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Where I live we tell someone to "Cave their Chest in" when things arent the way they like or should be....
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Actually they are pretty serious, been together for 2.5 years and they just bought a house together a few months ago...Marriage is in the air but not set yet....
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Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her!
I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! |
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I went thru this for many years. Your ex is the cause of the problem. It is she who exposes your daughter to this type of behavior. I never let any man feel like he had to be a father to my daughter. i just let him know that i wouldnt waste any bullets, if he didnt respect her. i also let her know he was still the man of the house, she was to go to her mother first, and then me if she had a problem with him. Its a long hard road, and even at 23, my daughter expresses saddness, because we didnt stay together as a family. Good luck. Its not easy. 
My daughter does still hold a lot of anger and confusion to us not being together. She somewhat understands but the "want" to have Mommy and Daddy together will always be there...He doesnt act like her Father in any way, he does respect me in that fashion and has told me himself he likes how I am as a Daddy and wishes he could be the same to his two boys...He needs to realize that now there is a little girl that is in his life and should accomodate to her as well.....
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Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her! I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! yay!! good for her!! and for you!! problem solved without any violence ((hugs)) |
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Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her! I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! You should be proud of her! Sounds like a great child. And good for you, for being such a good father! 
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Edited by
itsmetina
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Sun 04/27/08 09:45 AM
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oh well i'm sorry about that jim.looks like you'll need to work it out with him then.you know they could arrange for her to spend the night at a friend when they do these guyish things or whats so wrong with you getting extra time.i so hate these manditory every wkend visitations .i don't see why people can't loosen up and give extra time especialy with a great dad you seem to be
great wish my dad would have been so cheery about clothes shopping
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Good for her Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her! I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! |
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Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her! I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! You should be proud of her! Sounds like a great child. And good for you, for being such a good father!
Thanks! 10 minutes and we are going to meet up...I know he is upset..Hopefully he wont be stupid enough to speak out with my daughter around...My daughter said he was mad that she wasnt going now |
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unfortunately you don't get to rule what happens in her home. you are the father and can try to console your daughter, but she will have to learn that what her mother choses, will b done. and it appears her mother chooses to go w/ the flow of the new beau! some women bend that way. your daughter will endure, and hopefully learn to b more independant w/ her relationships. what u can do now? request to see her even if its not her day to spend w/ u..its only paper, what ya'll decide is fine..u n the ex...so if she lets u..great..if not..daughter, i'm sorry..but that's ur mother at this time, and please understand she's try'in to make somethin w/ a man..which causes her to comply to his whims. b strong, n time'll pass. live n learn how NOT to b -in when in a relationship.
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oh well i'm sorry about that jim.looks like you'll need to work it out with him then.you know they could arrange for her to spend the night at a friend when they do these guyish things or whats so wrong with you getting extra time.i so hate these manditory every wkend visitations .i don't see why people can't loosen up and give extra time especialy with a great dad you seem to be great wish my dad would have been so cheery about clothes shopping
I love doing those kinds of things with her...Thank you!
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It's sad when a child has to be the one to put her foot down.
Your ex is selfish.... 
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Great news!! My daughter spoke up and put her foot down! Told Mommy she was tired of doing all the "boy" things and she wanted to see me! I am so proud of her! I am going to get her and we are going clothes shopping!!!! Yay me! You should be proud of her! Sounds like a great child. And good for you, for being such a good father!
Thanks! 10 minutes and we are going to meet up...I know he is upset..Hopefully he wont be stupid enough to speak out with my daughter around...My daughter said he was mad that she wasnt going now Well maybe he'll realize that he needs to do activities that will make her feel more welcome. |
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It's sad when a child has to be the one to put her foot down. Your ex is selfish....
You have no idea 
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It's sad when a child has to be the one to put her foot down. Your ex is selfish....
You have no idea
You have to do the things in life that make you happy. BUT I have less than ZERO tolerance for women (I use that term lightly) who put their happiness before their childrens. There have been times my ex has called and wanted to take my daughter places, and I have wanted to do things with her. But she doesn't see him as much as she sees me, so if I told them no, her heart would be broken... and although my heart might be a bit broken that she wants to go with him.... IT'S NOT ABOUT ME...IT'S ABOUT HER. |
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unfortunately you don't get to rule what happens in her home. you are the father and can try to console your daughter, but she will have to learn that what her mother choses, will b done. and it appears her mother chooses to go w/ the flow of the new beau! some women bend that way. your daughter will endure, and hopefully learn to b more independant w/ her relationships. what u can do now? request to see her even if its not her day to spend w/ u..its only paper, what ya'll decide is fine..u n the ex...so if she lets u..great..if not..daughter, i'm sorry..but that's ur mother at this time, and please understand she's try'in to make somethin w/ a man..which causes her to comply to his whims. b strong, n time'll pass. live n learn how NOT to b -in when in a relationship. I know I cant rule, but I sure can speak up and make my voice heard. She has no rights over me, it's a shared legal..we have 50/50 all the way. She can not make any decisions in any fasion towards my daughter without my approval and vice versa. We do have a good parenting relationship where we both give as much time ot each other as possible for any events so on.... My daughter is catching on to more as she gets older obviously. She is very wise to it and knows that I am here no matter what...I have dropped travel plans just to be able to spend more time with her..... |
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It's sad when a child has to be the one to put her foot down. Your ex is selfish....
You have no idea
You have to do the things in life that make you happy. BUT I have less than ZERO tolerance for women (I use that term lightly) who put their happiness before their childrens. There have been times my ex has called and wanted to take my daughter places, and I have wanted to do things with her. But she doesn't see him as much as she sees me, so if I told them no, her heart would be broken... and although my heart might be a bit broken that she wants to go with him.... IT'S NOT ABOUT ME...IT'S ABOUT HER. Exactly! |
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Enjoy your afternoon all! Going to get her now...Be back later!!
 
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 ...glad the child won, she was the real victim... maybe (w/her feeling heard) she can ask to instigate/have a fair choice plan of activities....
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Enjoy your afternoon all! Going to get her now...Be back later!!
have fun!
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